The Nightline’ interview of Jesse James was more of an eye opener than I thought it would be. I went in watching to find something redeeming about Jesse, but it did the opposite.
I have to say it was one of the best interviews I have ever seen on TV and Vicky Mabry was better than Barbara Walters in her hay day. She asked the right questions and came back with what the audience was thinking after James gave an answer. She was able to expose Jesse for who he really is by asking the right questions and letting him peel back the layers in his own words. Mabry did an excellent job, again she used one of the best interviewing tactics I have ever seen.
Jesse James is a very selfish man who still is not willing to accept the responsibility for what he did. He even stated that the reason he was doing the interview was to tell people he is not a Nazi. It is all about him!
He broke down in tears at one point, but the tears were not for Sandra Bullock, baby Louis, or his children, the tears were for him. He was talking about his father breaking his arm when he was 7. He was the same age as his daughter Sonny at the time it happened. He started to cry while telling that story and needed a few minutes to compose himself.
Jesse said his father was chasing him and he fell and broke his arm. It is not as if his father “broke his arm”. He did not take it and twist it or pull his arm, Jesse fell. James’ father wrote into Nightline and denied that story. I wasn’t there, but by Jesse’s own admission, his father was chasing him and he fell.
James picked up all the language of counseling and is taking some of the concepts out of context and proudly using them as an excuse for what he did. In his own mind, this lets him off the hook. He rationalized cheating on Sandra because he did not deserve her and felt she was going to leave him anyway. He cheated, or “self sabotage” his relationship to punish himself? Poor Jesse, he acted as if he was hard on himself by doing this.
We got to see Jesse blame everyone else but himself for his behaviors. He blamed his father because the treatment he received from his father as a child made him feel unworthy of anything good in life. He blamed Sandra for being such a good wife and person because someone that good would leave him. He even blamed poor Baby Louis for the divorce. He said the adoption people wanted a stable life for the baby and that if he stayed with Sandra, they would not see it that way so they would lose Louis. That was the reason they had no choice but to divorce.
There is something deeply ingrained in this man’s personality and whether Sandra Bullock realizes this yet or not, he will make no woman a good mate. He cares too much about Jesse James to put someone else first. This entire interview was Jesse oriented, he did admit he hurt Sandra Bullock and the kids, but he was also able to rationalize why he did this taking the blame off of him.
Jesse needs a good DBT counselor , because as would happen to anyone with his personality type, he used the counseling he received to justify his actions and put the blame elsewhere. Now he is feeling relieved and almost proud that he has a scape goat in “self sabotage” and his father for his actions. Even the divorce has to happen for Louis to stay with Sandra. Everything is off of him and put onto others. He hasn’t changed a bit, the counseling may just have fined tuned his selfishness.
References: The Nightline Interview Live.