Lying has been a part of relationships as long as relationships have been around. Lies range from innocent ‘white lies’ to full blown lies. The best way to find out if someone is lying is to be direct and talk to them about it. Communication is essential for relationships. But if you’re feeling suspicious or worried about a potential lie from your girlfriend, here’s a few signs that she may be lying to you.
1. Avoiding Eye Contact
People don’t make direct eye contact for any number of reasons, and you shouldn’t automatically assume that your girlfriend is lying if she’s not looking directly at you. But its certainly a sign. People who are lying have a deep guilt in their subconscious. As a result they feel ashamed, and therefore its difficult to look you in the eye. They may be looking to the side or lowering their head. If she’s telling you a story about what she did last night and is avoiding looking in to your eyes, it could be a sign she is lying.
2. Avoiding Your Questions
If your girlfriend is constantly changing the subject or answering you with another question, it’s a sign that there is something she wants to avoid telling you. This is a big sign that she might be lying to you. It’s important to keep asking your questions. The more she avoids answering you, the more obvious it is she’s either lying or hiding something.
3. Hesitation In Voice
When a girl, or anyone for that matter, is telling a lie, they often have a lot of pauses or even changes in their voice. This is because they could be trying to think up a story as they go. The more you ask about details, the more they have to think about their cover-up. If you’re talking to your girlfriend and notice this pattern, it could mean she’s lying. It’s not automatic, as some people get nervous when asked questions. But it’s something to pay attention to.
4. Watch Out For Redirection
If you’re asking a question and your girlfriend responds angrily at you, accusing you of something random or just triggering an argument, it could mean she’s lying. A lot of time needless arguments arise out of nowhere, but if you ask a question that seems normal to you and your girlfriend responds with anger, it could mean she’s hiding something. It’s worth paying attention to and asking follow up questions.
When someone tells a lie, they often weave at as they go. If you ask them another question later, there’s a good chance the details they first told you will change. So if you feel your girlfriend told you a story you may not believe, ask something about it at another time. Odds are she won’t be able to recall the same story she originally told you. Again be mindful, people often forget minor details, so don’t ask something too obscure. But this is another way you can tell she might be lying.
6. If She’s Feeling Guilty
If you buy her something or take her to dinner like normal and she’s hesitant to do so, it could mean she’s hiding something or lying. Again, this has to do with feeling guilty. If you’re treating her nice after she just treated you poorly, that guilt will pile up. We’ve all told lies at some point in our life. Remember how you felt when you saw someone after you lied to them, no matter how big the lie was. That’s how your girlfriend is feeling.
7. Know Her Well
Does your girlfriend tell lies to other people that you know of? Is she telling you a story that is more detailed or less detailed than a story she normally tells you? If you’re in a serious relationship, you should have a good handle on each other’s normal behavior. It should be easy to tell if something out of the ordinary is happening. If you feel it is, you should be able to talk to each other about it. There could be a valid or deep reason she is lying. If you want your relationship to work, give her the benefit of the doubt and let her explain what happened and why she lied. It’s a lot more productive than jumping head first in to anger.