When you’ve just broken up with someone, you might think it’s a good idea to move on right away. Unfortunately, rebound relationships can be emotionally devastating for everyone involved.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a while and it ends in a breakup, you might think that the best thing you can do is move on and find someone new. Unfortunately, rebound relationships can be damaging to both you and your new partner. After a breakup, you should really take some time to get yourself together before starting a new relationship.
When you break up with someone, especially if it was a long relationship, you need to take time before moving on to a new relationship. Some experts suggest giving yourself one month of recovery for every year you were in the relationship. For example, if you were with the person for 5 years, you should allow yourself 5 months before moving on to a new relationship.
If you don’t take time to recover after a breakup, you’re not going to be able to give yourself fully to another partner. Do you think it is going to make your new partner happy if you’re constantly depressed over losing your past love or angry because they dumped you? No one really wants to hear about the person that came before them. It can cause a lot of stress in a new relationship if you’re always thinking about the one that just ended.
You also need to take time before entering a new relationship so you can assess what really went wrong in the last one. It’s often easy to lay blame and not take responsibility, but just like it takes two to make a relationship work, it also takes two to make it not work. More likely than not you both did things wrong that led to the breakup. Even if you didn’t act in wrong ways during the relationship, you may be prone to choosing partners that treat you poorly, and that’s something you’ll need to work on.
You should always make sure you have your head on straight before moving into a new relationship. Make sure that you are over your past partner and can devote yourself to the new one. No matter what you or your past partner did wrong, make sure you’re aware of it and avoid it in the next relationship.
Avoiding rebound relationships is simple, just don’t get physically or emotionally involved with anyone right after a breakup. You may want desperately to find someone new to love who will love you, but rebound relationships almost always end badly, and you’ll end up with double heartbreak and it will be even more difficult to move on to a new healthy relationship.
After a breakup, do what you can to get away from the person you broke up with. Take time to think about all the problems without the emotional bias. You need to think clearly and objectively about everything that led to the breakup. Do whatever you have to do to clear that person out of your life and take care of whatever faults you have within you that might cause problems in a future relationship.
Once you have a clear head and you’re no longer feeling strong emotions for your past partner or thinking about them all the time, then you can consider entering a new relationship. If you think there may still be lingering emotions or issues, disclose this to your new partner. Give them the chance to either help you work through it or not be in a relationship with you. You should never get involved with someone just to make yourself feel better after a breakup.
If you take some time and sort things out before finding someone new, you can avoid rebound relationships and hopefully enter into a healthy relationship with someone new. Being alone for a while might seem difficult, but it’s the best thing for both you and the next person you get into a relationship with.