It is both incredibly simple and incredibly hard to tell if someone hates you. If you are lying on the ground with any amount of blood coming out of you because of a direct action from another, you can be assured that person hates you, your guts and everything else about you. It does not have to be your phsycial blood leaking out of you. It could be your money, which is your financial “life blood.”
But He Says He Loves Me
Don’t be fooled by this person constantly praising you and telling you how much they love (or like) you. They’re lying through their teeth and (most importantly) they don’t care that they’re lying to you. They just see you as a vending machine – pull the right lever and the candy will come out. They do not actually see you as someone who can suffer. They certainly don’t see you as someone who is an equal.
If someone keeps borrowing money off of you and never pays any back, he or she hates you. If someone keeps showing up late for dates or meetings with you but that same person expects you to be on time, BINGO, you’re hated. If they will not let you sleep, they really hate you. If they don’t care about your point of view, you can bet the farm that they hate you.
Different Expressions of Hatred
Some people don’t express their hate so dramatically or obviously. But they are the ones who keep vowing to change their ways of hurting you and they never do. Drop them and have nothing more to do with them. Your survival is more important. Do whatever you have to do to get as far away from this person as quickly as possible. You can take yourself physically away or take your money away.
And they will never miss you for one second (even though they might say they will) because they have another sucker already lined up in their sights.
They also hate themselves, but that’s THEIR problem, not yours. It’s not your fault that they hate themselves, and it certainly isn’t your obligation to get them to change their minds. You are also not under any obligation to “change” this person. Don’t fool yourself. It’s not going to happen. People can only change themselves if they want to change.
If someone keeps telling you that they want to change and need your help but they never actually do any changes, that someone hates you.
Look at the events of your relationship objectively. If you can’t do that, then you need a trusted friend, family member or therapist to help you face facts. You can see a lot of things you really don’t want to, especially if you have invested a tremendous amount of time, money and energy into the relationship. Cut your losses and get out.