If you want to save your marriage, you can do it by using these time sensitive techniques. No, I don’t mean watching the clock when your spouse is late coming home, or timing their every move. How do you save your marriage by watching the clock? Spend every moment wisely. In a good marriage, partners spend a good portion of married life using the following techniques to strengthen their relationship. Each one is appropriate at different times. Knowing how to watch the clock can save your marriage.
Leaving the Past Behind
Some couples argue over the silliest things. In fact, they will re-hash an argument from the past many times over. Smart couples can save their marriage by leaving the past behind. Understand that you will always disagree on some things. Realize that your partner can’t change past behavior. They can only make things better in the present and future. Watch the clock and move on.
Living in the Moment
Now that you have left the past where it belongs, as a memory, rather than a reality, you can watch the clock move into the present together. There is an old saying, “the past is gone, the future is yet to come, all we really have is today”. Share the present together and make wonderful memories for the future. The best is yet to come.
Just because the future isn’t here yet, doesn’t mean you can’t hope and dream. One of the best ways to save a marriage is by sharing your dreams for the future. What if your dreams don’t coincide? That’s OK. As a married couple, you remain interesting to each other by having some separate interests. You can share your dreams of the future with your spouse and support theirs without having the same goals.
Trying to spend every moment together can be a bad thing. Couples need time apart to grow as individuals. Just because your spouse wants to spend time alone with their friends and family, doesn’t mean they are neglecting you. Don’t take it personally and sit home watching the clock tick away the hours. Call a friend, or just spend the day pampering yourself.
Taking the Time
Successful couples always take the time to hear the other person’s point of view. Try to be understanding when you disagree. That’s not the only way to take time to save your marriage. Be sure to comfort your spouse when they’re feeling down. Adopt a “do unto others” policy. Always take the time to treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.
Timing is Everything
To save your marriage, watch the clock for the right times to bring up issues, discuss the things you would like your spouse to help you with, or even talk about the changes you would like to make. The old saying, “timing is everything” is a wise policy. Why bring up issues in the midst of a disagreement about something else? Time your conversations for moments when you are both relaxed and happy. The outcome will be more positive.