It’s been two weeks since you and that special someone went out on your first date. Things seemed as if they went great, but you haven’t heard from them. Is this you? Have you ever wondered why that certain guy or girl didn’t call you back after the date, provided that it wasn’t a blind date and the physical attraction was mutual? What could have possibly gone wrong? Here are a few possible reasons why you didn’t receive that call.
All About You
Have you ever gone on a first date with someone that was more interested in him or herself than you? I know I have and if you haven’t, you may be the person described in this example. One of the biggest mistakes on a first date is to engage in too much self-talk. This could extend from talking too much about your likes and dislikes to bragging on a lifetime share of your accomplishments. I went out with a guy who talked forty-five minutes on and off about his fraternity and how wild their fraternity parties were. It wasn’t that the stories were boring or anything, but that’s all I learned about him. Therefore, I couldn’t really remember the other five or ten minutes of other interests and aversions. There has to some type of equilibrium. Once your date asks you a question, answer that specific question and not five extras that were irrelevant to the subject at hand. Then, it would be a good idea to ask them something similar in order to shift the attention to them. Kind of like a game of verbal volleyball. In addition to this, no one wants to hear about all the extreme relationships with your ex-lovers, therefore, leave your dramatic experiences at the precinct where they belong.
Being forward on date simply means pushing a circumstance beyond its normal boundaries or jumping too far ahead of what constitutes typical first-date standards. This could be trying to force a kiss on your date, insisting that your date goes home with you, or making plans for your date to meet your parents the same night. Men and women both can be forward on a first date. For instance, when a man is forward in regards to sex, he comes off as being too aggressive, so typically a woman assumes that sex is all he is after. Likewise, if a woman is too forward, again in regards to sex, she may be perceived as being too promiscuous and could come off as a cheap thrill to a man. If you are really interested in your date, you should take it slow. Discover what is appealing to that person and the things that person detests. All the things will align naturally if the vibe is good between you to.
There is nothing more important on a first date than giving your date your undivided attention. This means turning your phone on vibrate and taking care of business calls before the date. If for some reason you feel you must accept that call, make it brief. I would also recommend that you don’t walk off from your date to answer. Why? Simply because you are going to seem like you have something to hide, such as a boyfriend or girlfriend at home. In addition to cell phone distractions, don’t get caught checking out the hot waitress or handsome waiter across the room. Even though your date may not mention that they saw you checking that person out, they probably were paying more attention to them than you were. This is especially true with women because we notice almost every woman in our area who is attractive way before our date does. Therefore, keep in mind not to utilize the wondering eyes. Hopefully, your date has dressed appealing enough to keep your attention.