Many parents of teens come to the realization that they feel most comfortable when their children and friends are hanging out at their own home. Never truly knowing what is going on inside of other’s people’s homes or what code of conduct they feel is acceptable, allowing teens to gather inside their own home may give parents peace of mind that their children are safe and well supervised. When I was a teenager, my parents welcomed my friends with open arms any day of the week. They felt that as long as we were gathered under their roof, they had a clear knowledge of what we were up to and how we were spending our time. My mother wisely employed a few tactics to make sure that my friends felt welcome and comfortable in choosing our home as the place to socialize. This article will offer some tips and suggestions on how to make your home more teen friendly and offer you the same piece of mind.
Be Accepting Of The Ruckus.
When a group of teens gather together, the noise can sometimes reach deafening proportions. Listening to music, sharing stories and laughing at each other’s antics can produce quite a bit of noise. If you are constantly the parent who yells “Turn Down That Music,” or “Could You Stop Talking So Loud,” teens will feel that they can not relax and enjoy themselves. I am not suggesting that your home should be a free for all and the noise inside your home should be equal to elephants stomping around, but accepting that teens in a group can sometimes get a bit loud and significantly increase the noise level in your home, will definitely make your home more appealing to your teen and his or her friends. My parents were the only ones who allowed my brother and his band to practice at their home, so our home immediately became the place where they gathered after school and on weekends. They didn’t always like the constant sound of guitars and drums, but they considered it a small price to pay to keep on eye on them.
Keep The Pantry Well Stocked With Teen Friendly Foods.
Teens love to eat….alot. You shouldn’t feel the need to feed the neighborhood, but keeping a few extra bags of chips or boxes of frozen snack foods will certainly make your home more attractive to spend time in. Baking a batch of cookies or muffins once in a while doesn’t hurt either. My mother always remembered my friends’ favorite snack items while grocery shopping. Not only did this ensure they wouldn’t go hungry while spending time at our home, I believe it also made them feel cared for and respected. This goes a long way when teens decide where they choose to spend their free time.
Invest In A Recreational Item The Teens Can Enjoy.
Teenagers are often drawn to homes where there are fun things to do there. If you can afford to purchase the Wii or other popular gaming system, a pool table, karaoke machine or the components to play Rock Band, you may just find your teenager’s friends happy to spend their time in your home instead of across town. Again, I am not suggesting that you break the bank to keep your teen and his or her friends at your home instead of someone else’s, but investing in a few vehicles of teen friendly entertainment could certainly increase the time that your child and their close circle of friends spend in your home.
Be Willing To Listen And Offer Advice When Needed.
If your teenager’s friends spend a great amount of time at your home, you will eventually begin to hear about their problems and issues. If your teenager’s circle of friends know that your home is one where they can freely express themselves and receive good, solid advice, they will be more inclined to spend time at your home. This is not a responsibility that should be taken lightly, however, as you should always regard yourself as someone who is in a position of authority. You should always strive to be a moral example. Be aware that you may need to alert another child’s parents, however, if you become privy to information that the child is in need of serious guidance from their parents. You should never attempt to take the place of another teenager’s parents but sending the message that you are understanding of their unique problems and conflicts will make your children’s friends more receptive to spending time in your home.