Two strangers meet by chance in a Supermarket, introduced by friends, meet at a party or at a singles dance. They converse, meet for Sunday brunch and they realize that they have things in common and similar long term interests. A relationship develops and for a while everything is fine.
However, within a short time, the excitement felt at the start begins to become boring, they start to lose interest and their relationship begins to wane. Keep in mind that a relationship between two who were once strangers, like flowers, needs to be nurtured or it will stagnate and in time will die.
Keeping a relationship interesting and promising takes work and effort by each person. Think about whether it is worth it? Do you both have enough in common to commit to a lasting relationship? If you answer ‘yes’, then start thinking of ways to keep the relationship alive and the emotions burning.
1. Send her flowers every so often so she does not expect them. Being surprised is much better. Have them delivered to her home and not to the office. Women work in the office, flowers are out of place and might embarrass them.
2. Telephone a few times a week, unless she tells you to call more often. Do not call at night when you know she is not busy. Do not phone when she is preparing dinner, putting the kids to bed or after 10 o’clock when you know she might be making preparations for the next day. Be considerate. Make the conversation interesting but brief. Do not keep her on the phone for an hour at a time. You want her to look forward to your calling and not to think about the pest who keeps calling.
3. Make certain that you remember the important days to celebrate. Like your first week anniversary, her birthday and each of the major holidays. Buy her a gift but do not go overboard. If she is interested she will not want to enter into a relationship with someone who seems to spend his money needlessly. Small gifts are fine. The idea is to show her that you are thinking about her and not about how much money you can spend.
4. Take her out for dinner at an upscale restaurant at least once a month. Select a different one each time. Make sure to bring her a bouquet of flowers. This type of date will give her a chance to dress-up, get a new hair style, get her nails done, for her ‘special date’. Do not take her for granted. Keep the sparks alive and burning brightly.
Dating, like marriage, needs to be kept interesting. If any relationship is to survive, romance should be kept alive. Never take her for granted. Do not call without first asking her if you could call at a certain time. She might be too busy in the evenings to sit on the telephone. At times, wait for her to call you. This will reveal that she is interested and misses you.
Moreover, if you should marry make sure to follow the same rules. It will help to keep your marriage alive as well. Once you take a person for granted a relationship can die. It is the excitement of surprise and the unknowing that keeps a relationship growing.