One of the things about being human is, we all get used to things. This is not to say we only miss someone we love because we are used to them being in a certain place at certain times, but it sure does contribute to it. In any event, regardless of the reason, many men find it very difficult to be apart from their wife for any length of time; especially at night, when couples are usually most intimate. There are things a man can do however, to help deal with the separation anxiety that comes with being apart from your wife for a time.
The best thing to do is find things that are engrossing. Movies are good for this, as are favorite televisions shows, unless you usually watch them with your wife. So are books and magazines if you like to read and so is talking to someone who is a good conversationalist, just so long as you’re engaged in it and not just nodding a lot while you think about how much you’re missing your wife.
Another thing you can do is work on things that you’ve been putting off, such as fixing the lawn mower or painting the bathroom. These kinds of things are also engrossing but they are also something you actively do, which keeps your body occupied. Also, it won’t hurt knowing while you’re doing it how pleased your wife will be when she returns and finds you’ve accomplished so much in her absence.
You might also consider doing some catching up with friends or relatives. Even if they know you’re only calling or writing because you’re lonely for your wife, they’ll still appreciate the attention from you, and you’ll get to find out what is going on with everybody, and then, when your wife comes home, you can fill her in on everything.
Something else you can do is get out of the house and do some things that you would never do if your wife were home; not bad things, but things she wouldn’t do with you or you wouldn’t do because it would have felt wrong to leave her all alone at home while you were out doing something fun, perhaps with other people.
As for that loneliness at night after you climb under the covers; if you have a television in the bedroom, try watching something that takes your mind off your aloneness. If that’s not possible, perhaps you could turn on the radio; most places have a DJ that talks about things at night because there are a lot of people who have trouble sleeping and don’t want to feel so alone. Also, if you find it difficult to sleep with your wife away, you might try some of the OTC sleep medicines, or at the least drink some tea that makes you sleepy. You might also get yourself one of those long pillows that simulate someone sleeping next to you. And if that fails, just tell yourself that she’ll be home soon, and that you are extremely lucky to have a wife that you miss so much when she is gone.