Being the parent of a teenage daughter is a rough job. It can be a very rebellious time of their lives so you have to be especially careful about how you handle things. You have to be a more alert parent to make sure your teenager isn’t getting into things that could, in effect, be dangerous for them. It isn’t always easy to detect if your daughter is in a bad situation. Teenagers often keep important information from their parents for various reasons. In the case of abuse, it could be a deadly mistake for them.
Here is how parents can tell if their daughter is in an abusive relationship:
Change in Attitude
When your teen daughter becomes very withdrawn from you and from her friends, there is a good chance that she is in an abusive relationship with someone. Abusers often convince their victims that they will never hurt them again. The victim then covers for the abuser which means they will become withdrawn so they won’t tell the secret. That is how the cycle of abuse can continue on. The longer your daughter keeps the secret, the worse the abuse becomes.
If your daughter seems to come up with a lot of unexplained or unlikely bruises and cuts, there is a high chance that she is in an abusive relationship with someone. Instead of telling the truth about where the marks come from, she will make up a lie about what happened to her or she will say she doesn’t know how she got the marks. If the story your daughter is telling about how she got bruises or cuts doesn’t sound likely, it probably isn’t. You need to dig a little deeper to find out the truth. This coupled with the withdrawn attitude could mean your teenage daughter is in a lot more trouble than she even realizes.
If your daughter seems to be a little over protective of the person she is dating, there is a good chance, with the other issues named above, that she is being abused by him. If there is something that you don’t like about this person, there is probably good reason for that. Parents usually have a built in sensor that tells them when something just isn’t right. Follow your instincts as the parent of a teenage daughter and do what you have to in order to find out for sure that everything is alright.
Abusers are often very charming around everyone else. They are able to make everyone think they are something they are not. They are very nice, pleasant people to be around. They will never let on that they have a dark side to them in front of other people. This covers who they really are so they don’t get into trouble and they can continue on with the horrible treatment that he gives to his girlfriend behind closed doors.
The main thing to remember is that if something is too good to be true, it probably is. If your daughter’s boyfriend seems a little too good, he probably is. There is usually more to the story than you know. Listen to what your daughter says when she talks. If she decides that she doesn’t want to see someone again, she is the one that has to make that decision. Don’t try to talk her into staying with someone because they seem to be something. Let her make the decision. If you are suspicious at all that she might be in over her head, follow those instincts. Don’t let your daughter be involved in something that she could end up dead over.