How strict is too strict for children? This is a provocative question for many parents. Being a strict parent can have pros and cons. It also leads to questions such as, If I’m to strict will my child hate me or if I’m not strict enough will my children get into trouble? This is a situation that many parents face raising children.
Why do parents feel the need to be strict? Many parents are afraid if they are not strict they child will get hurt or into trouble. That is why this is the number one answer to this question. Parents are suppose to protect their children and in doing so can become over protective thus making for resentment on the child’s part. Its okay to protect your children but don’t over do it.
What is too strict? Being too strict is taking away the cell phone for failing a test or coming home ten minutes later than curfew. The grade can always be pulled up and you can always hear why they are a few minutes late coming home. Give your child some credit where credit is due. Parents can also be too strict when it comes to children having friends spend the night. Not allowing your child’s friends to spend the night can cause problems for your child. Their friends may tease them by saying, “Why your parents won’t let you have friends over, and are they that weird?” Children take these sort of things to heart, so lighten up some and let their friends come over.
What is not strict enough? Parents who do not teach their children manners and respect for other people are not strict enough. In addition, parents who let their child get away with anything. Many parents would rather be a friend than a parent. This is not acceptable. Parents need to control their children’s actions. What I mean by this is, teach your children to respect adult. Teach them to speak respectful. Teach your children not to steal and to work for what they want. Make sure to instill what is right and what is wrong in your child, you want them to grow up and be respected adults.
What are the pros to being too strict? There are not many pros to being to strict. The only one that may be considered is protection. Parents can still protect their child without over doing it. This is why parents need to teach children respect for others, respect themselves and teach them right from wrong.
What are the cons to being to strict? Conflict between parent and child will arise if there are too many restrictions. It may cause the child to lie, steal and cheat. No parent wants a police officer at his or her door at 3 a.m. saying your son or daughter was arrested. While all along you thought, they were asleep in bed.
The answer to the question how strict is too strict for children? Use your own judgment. You as a parent know what you will and will not tolerate from a child’s misbehavior. Put yourself in the child’s situation and try to learn how they think. This will help you to figure out how strict you need to be.