Single mothers all have to realize one thing. Although, you didn’t sign up for the role of being a father, the job still has to be done. Know that you will have to learn how to “switch hats.” Also, know that you all not alone. You have help available around you and your pride should not get in the way when it comes to the welfare of your children. Try these helpful tips below.
• Let your maternal instincts lead the way. You are already equipped to be a mother, be the disciplinarian in the family is usually the father. Do not be discouraged, be smarter. Your child may try to manipulate you by pulling that “I don’t have a father” card, but you have to be strong enough to see through this game. Here’s what you do:
o Take away the one thing you child loves to do (video game, skateboard, TV, etc.) for one week. By the end of the week, they will realize what has occurred and learn to respect you more. If the child acts out again, increase the punishment length a week more each time. The child usually learns his or her lesson by the second or third week.
• Seek the aid of grandfathers, uncles and/or male cousins. They will be the male influence in your child’s life and not only give the child guidance, but with teach your child to show you more respect.
• Give the child small chores to be responsible for around the house like emptying the garbage cans, taking out the trash, getting the mail or loading the dishwasher. These are little chores will help you out tremendously because now you are only responsible for the major ones.
• Only give out rewards when they truly deserve it. With one income in the household, you cannot afford to splurge on petty items in order to please the child. Remember, you are the child’s parent and not his or her friend.
• Gather every bill you have to see where your finances stand.
• Create your budget to pay all your bills first, household second and miscellaneous third.
• Let your child know upfront that there is only one income coming in the household, so expensive things have to be earned; learning to earn gifts the hard way will help him or her out years from now and mold him or her into a better person
• Use family members and family as a safety net to fall back on. You cannot do it all alone. If you have to, use them to vent your problems to. They will understand.
• Try to keep your general health in good shape. Being a single mother is demanding and can cause physical wear and tear on your body.
• Spend quality time with your children. This time should be used to give relaxation to you and the child while enjoying each other’s company.
• Do stress on the small things. If you cannot afford to hold on to something whether it be a boyfriend or inanimate object, then let it go. Your child comes first.
• Be optimistic and look towards your child as inspiration.
Hopefully, these tips will making an impact on your life in a positive way. Single mothers hold your heads up high. You are accomplishing a great feat by living up to your responsibility as a parent flying solo. Kudos, for being a good mother.