Lots of articles are written about weddings and the bride-to-be, but I think perhaps the groom-to-be could use a few helpful hints that could be beneficial. Here are a few thoughts and suggestions that are sure to make for happier brides, and that’s the goal of each and every groom-to-be out there I’m sure. Read on…
Just know that every girl dreams about her wedding day. So please allow her to make the choices she desires. She has been thinking about these decisions a lot longer than you have. Many bridal magazines have been leafed through and perused over by her, probably much longer than you realize. So if you like the color blue, and she likes the color peach, then peach it should be. Do you really care about colors anyway? Let her have her way on important wedding detail decisions.
That being said, it’s important that you show an interest. When she asks you which flower you like best, don’t roll your eyes and say you don’t care. She will interpret that as you saying you don’t care about her. If she asks you which font you like best, be honest and say you don’t know what a font is. Then let her show you. And give an honest opinion, if she asks. But always follow it up with telling her she has the final say.
I can’t stress this suggestion enough. Always be available and on time for any and all appointments. Realize that your showing up when you’re suppose to is a direct reflection on how much you care about her. Sorry, guys, but that’s the way she’ll see it. If you’re the type to always be fifteen minutes late, it would be in your best interests to suddenly turn into Mr. Prompt. It’s very important.
Don’t say no when your bride-to-be wants to take ballroom dancing lessons so you can perform a beautiful waltz for your first dance as husband and wife at the reception. Realize that she’s probably been watching Dancing With The Stars like just about every other female in the U.S. and this is her moment to shine. You don’t want to be a klutz and step on her feet, do you? You’ll want to be suave, even if it’s the first time you’ve ever been suave in your life.
Still woo her during the wedding planning phase. This is another important factor to remember. A bride-to-be can get so caught up in planning her major event, that she momentarily forgets what this is all about. Remind her. Plan a romantic evening out and try not to talk about wedding details. Instead, steer the conversation to when and how you first met and how much you love one another. Think of it as a little reprieve from all the wedding planning chaos. It will help the two of you to re-connect.
Let’s talk about your Bachelor Party. This is not the time to think about drunken binges and strippers. Those days are gone. Have a good time with your best buddies, but don’t do anything that you’ll regret later on. And most importantly, don’t have your Bachelor Party the night before the wedding. You don’t want to be hung over for your wedding. You want to be sharp and awake and looking handsome as ever.
I heard about a groom-to-be doing this and thought it was the cutest gesture. Picture this. On the morning of the wedding, your bride-to-be is sequestered somewhere with her bridesmaids. They’re all scurrying about doing their hair and getting dressed and putting on make-up and being very nervous. All of a sudden, there’s a knock on the door. Someone delivers a sweet, small bouquet of flowers for the bride-to-be, and there’s a note attached. It’s him, and he’s telling her he can’t wait to make her his wife and to start their lives together. He follows it up with telling her how much he loves her and that he’ll see her in a little bit. That one gesture, fellas, will make every one of those females in that room tear up and have to re-apply their eye makeup. It somehow reassures your fiance that all this madness will soon come to an end and you’ll be there waiting for her with open arms. See? Even I’m starting to get a little teary-eyed thinking about this part.
It’s wedding time. The music starts, and your bride is walking down the aisle. Whatever you do, keep your eyes peeled only on her. And smile. When she reaches you, tell her she’s the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen in your whole life. Say it like you mean it, even if she has her hair up in some ugly little bun and you prefer her hair down straight. It’s just for the wedding. Your beautiful fiance is just underneath the surface. Tell her she’s gorgeous and sexy.
Don’t be funny during ceremony. Take this seriously. This isn’t the time to try out any of your stand-up bits. Sometimes grooms get a little nervous too and they start to act dumb to relieve the tension. Don’t. This may only be a formality to you, but to her, it’s a fairytale coming true.
If you decide to write your own vows, take heed. Please allow a woman you trust (like maybe your Mom) read what you’re planning to say. Let her give you some useful criticism and/or some helpful hints. Not to make you more nervous or anything, but these words you speak today will go down in your marriage history.
After the wedding and during the reception, always be a gentleman. Be classy and dignified. Be her Prince Charming the whole time. Do not get drunk. Do not curse. Smile often and be sure to put a protective hand on the small of her back every chance you get. Now and then, look into her eyes so the two of you can bond for just a second even with all the people milling around you. Those are called “moments” and we girls love our moments.
This is another biggie. It’s so big, that I’ll say it in all caps. At the reception, DO NOT SMASH CAKE INTO YOUR BRIDE’S FACE AT THE CAKE CUTTING. And that goes for you too, bride-to-be. She had makeup expertly applied, she had her hair done, she still has on a very expensive gown. Why on earth would someone want to destroy all that with something as low class as smashing cake all over her face? Many a wedding night has been destroyed over this one particular moment in time. Treat her like a treasure. And smashing a cake into her mouth or her face is not treating her like she’s special. It’s tacky.
While you and your new bride are making the rounds at all the tables to say thank you to your guests, another nice gesture is for you to pay a little extra attention to Grandma or any other elderly ladies in attendance. Say something to flatter them and make them smile. Tell them they look pretty in their dress, something like that. Your bride will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
And while stopping by all the tables, thank everyone for coming as quickly as you can, so the two of you can both actually enjoy your own reception.
And finally, even though there’s only one thing on your mind, don’t leave the reception early just because you want to get to the sex part. You’ll have plenty of time for that. Just allow your new bride to savor the moment.
And finally, and this is good advice for always, treat her like a lady. We like stuff like that.