Yes, almost every girl at one point or another dreams of walking down the aisle with their partner. If you were like me, Barbie did it at least a dozen times a year. So why would an All American dreamster like myself chose to elope with my husband instead of taking the financial plunge of marital wedding bliss? First, before one assumes I was knocked up or otherwise incapacitated, shame on you. Not everyone elopes who is pregnant. Now let’s move on to the reasons:
Pregnancy. Okay, let me just say there is nothing wrong with eloping because you are pregnant. Yes, I did it. I admit it. I was more excited about being pregnant than getting married. I am fortunate enough to have married the man I love, and he at least tells me I am the only woman for him on the planet. We could have put all of our disposable income into a grand reception instead of our daughter’s 529 account, but somehow I think in the year 2017, we will be happy in our wise decision.
Lack of Responsibility. Life is full of responsibility and pressure. Can you think of a more pressure filled event than a wedding? Soon to be in-laws meeting the family, what to serve for dinner, what kind of flowers, what music to play, what venue, the gifts, etc. If you elope, the only thing you need to think about is where to do it and who not to tell.
Intimacy. From personal experience I can say it was one of the best weekends of our lives. We still talk about how much fun we had and giggled about our secret rendezvous until we made the ominous calls to moms and dads. In all seriousness, it is a weekend that will be all our own with our memories together. I would do it again with no regrets. Case closed.
Financial Strain. This is obviously a choice for a couple. If a happy couple is not getting financial assistance from family members, then using credit cards and savings for a wedding seem an expense that may not be a prudent decision when starting a life together. Sometimes the emotional reasons of having a wedding overwhelm the reality that the expense is not smart. The arguments of family, romance and memories are all valid. If you can change your perspective, eloping can be more romantic, memorable, fun and more cost effective!
Eloping is always an alternative to having a traditional ceremony. It can save dollars over time that when compounded over 40 years, could make you hundreds of thousands of dollars depending on where you invest. It is an emotional decision that needs to be considered understanding the dynamic of your family. However, if you feel it is right for you and your partner, the rewards are great.