If you are the best man in a wedding, you have to give a toast at the reception. Don’t despair; these tips will help you write a great toast that everyone will remember. Make sure before you give your speech that you have put on your tuxedo jacket, your tie is straight and you are standing up straight. Do not get drunk before the speech. You will be photographed during your speech so be sure and look at the bride and groom as well as the guests while you are speaking. Speak loudly and clearly and keep it short, no more than 3-4 minutes. Be sure it is PG rated for the children and grandparents who are in attendance. Plan what you are going to say and practice your speech a few times, it is fine to use note cards to keep you on track. This is not the time to try to wing it.
Introduce yourself at the beginning of the toast, although you know the bride and groom well, not everyone in the room knows who you are. Tell them who you are and how you know the bride and groom. Tell them how honored you are to share in the special day.
Share a Story or a Memory
Depending on the style of the wedding you can determine if it is appropriate to use humor during the toast. A formal wedding may not be the time or place for jokes. More of a family affair or a smaller wedding is a good venue for humor. When in doubt, ask the bride and groom what they prefer. It is a good rule of thumb to always be flattering to the bride and to poke friendly fun of the groom, don’t try to humiliate him or make him feel uncomfortable but some friendly roasting usually plays well. Never talk about specific ex girlfriends during the toast; you can however talk hypothetically about his dating life. This should be in fun and never meant to humiliate the bride. One common joke for best men is to talk about trying to contact previous girlfriends but the only ones who would admit to dating the groom is his mother and cousin. That type of generic joke is fine, specifics about the groom’s history has no place in the wedding toast. Talk about how lucky the groom is to have found someone as special as the bride. Call out her good qualities and how lucky the groom is to have found her. You can talk about how they met, or how you were first introduced to the bride.
When you are giving the toast at a wedding, you should always end with a salutation of good wishes. Remember to congratulate the couple and share with everyone your prayers or heartfelt wishes. Don’t forget to actually offer a toast at the end of your speech, raise your glass and drink.
Quotes and Toasts for the Bride and Groom
Allan K. Chalmers
The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her.
There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day, knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
In a great romance, each person plays a part the other really likes.
In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.
Love is being stupid together.
A heart that loves is always young.
I was nausous and tingly all over, I was either in love or I had small pox.
You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make, not just on your wedding day, but over and over again, and that choice is reflected in teh way you treat your husband or wife.
Let us toast the health of the bride; Let us toast the health of the groom, Let us toast the person that tied; Let us toast every guest in the room.
My greatest wish for the two of you is that through the years your love for each other will so deepen and grow, that years from now you will look back on this day, your wedding day, as the day you loved each other the least.
May ‘for better or worse’ be far better than worse.