The decision to conceive again after suffering a miscarriage is not usually easy to make. A miscarriage carries with it physical, mental and emotional scars that must be understood and healed in order to make a decision about conceiving again. Some women feel so empty after a miscarriage that they rush into conceiving again soon afterward. Others have a difficult time dealing with the loss and may take some time to recover not only physically but also mentally and emotionally in order to arrive at a place in time when they will feel good about conceiving again.
Medical professionals and mental health care professionals will advise women and their partners to take time to grieve for the child they have lost and to be ready before making the decision to become pregnant again.
No one can tell a woman when she will be ready to conceive again after a miscarriage. Individuals who have experienced a miscarriage naturally worry about it occurring again in the next pregnancy. This fear is normal and fortunately many will go on to have healthy pregnancies and births following a miscarriage.
Those who have experienced more than one miscarriage may be referred to a specialist in genetics, or reproductive endocrinology for evaluation. This evaluation will help to determine the risks for genetic problems associated with miscarriage and increase the odds for a successful pregnancy and healthy birth. Women over age 35 even if they have not experienced miscarriage are often referred for genetic counseling. Women who have diabetes are also usually referred for genetic counseling to determine if they are at risk for miscarriage. If a couple has experienced infertility with or without experiencing a miscarriage they may also be referred for genetic counseling and evaluation.
When is the timing right to try to conceive again?
A woman or couple may go through certain steps in order to determine if the timing is right for them to try to get pregnant again after suffering a miscarriage. The steps they take may include:
A pre-conception medical examination to determine that the woman is physically healthy and ready to conceive
A mental health evaluation to determine if the couple is ready to face the physical, mental and emotional demands of another pregnancy
Do they have a support system in place during the pregnancy?
What can be done to safeguard against another miscarriage?
Once the decision has been made to get pregnant again after a miscarriage one of the first things addressed is the need to safeguard against another miscarriage.
Although no medical professional can guarantee the healthy outcome of any pregnancy there are steps that can be taken to give the couple reassurance that all is being done to medically prepare for the pregnancy and to monitor the pregnancy so that risks can be lowered and a healthy outcome has a higher chance for happening.
Make sure that the medical staff knows about the previous miscarriage.
Ask that the new pregnancy be closely monitored.
Avoid making preparations too early for the new baby. Most couples will wait until the second trimester before making baby preparations when the risk for a miscarriage has greatly decreased.
Be prepared for the emotional roller coaster that the birth will bring up as memories of the miscarriage may resurface during the birth.
Surround yourselves with as much support as possible from family and friends.
Support groups and counselors are available in most communities for those who have experienced miscarriage seek these groups as soon as possible after experiencing a miscarriage and ask about support groups for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.
American Pregnancy Association After a Miscarriage: Getting Pregnant Again http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyloss/mcgettingpregnantagain.html