Are you always struggling to gain acceptance with your social circle? Does your peer group give you sideways glances everytime you speak up in a casual conversation? Do your co-workers make you choose your words a little too wisely? Do you always feel like you are walking on egg shells? If so, it is time for a change. It is time to change your 5 o’clock happy hour crowd, your office clique, and maybe even re-assess your overall environment. It’s time to get in where you fit in.
Why is this so important? Well, there are many reasons. In fact, there are so many, I could go on for days. I’ll just give you guys a few simple ones. How’s that? Okay……good. The first is sense of self, or, self worth. If others are always making you feel like an idiot, a reject, or an outsider everytime you speak, eventually you are going to start believing you are an idiot, a reject or an outsider. This will severly damage you on multiple levels. It will take months(maybe even years) to repair this kind of self destruction. The second reason is remarkably similar(in fact, nearly the same if misinterpreted). So what is it? Self confidence. If you do not have confidence in yourself, you will never take on the tasks that you are truely capable of. Those are are the challenges which will ultimately lead you to great success. You see, a peer group who is negative or skeptical of your efforts, will often ruin your self confidence and prevent you from leading life to the best of your abilities. But hey, it’s your fault. You choose to hang around them. You choose to absorb their attitudes and moodiness on a regular basis. You can always cut the cord. You can always get in where you fit in. The third reason is happiness. If you do not surround yourself with people you lift your spirits and accept you for who you are, you are missing out on a wonderful life. You are living in a high school fantasy land in which you are forever chasing the “cool people”. News Flash: those people are usually arrogant jerks. More times than not, they are self centered egotists who care nothing about you. They have their own agenda…..and it is usually not positive. This is not to say that there are not a ton of genuinely cool people out there with big hearts and great personalities who care more for others than even for themselves. We meet them all the time. Unfortunately, they are just a little harder to find, and they just aren’t as magnetic as the jerks……so watch out.
Okay, I’ve given you a few simple but important reasons why you should get in where you fit in. Nobody can do the hard part for you. No one else can break the chains that bind you. That is your job. It is time to assess your life. If it is time for social reconstruction…..get to it. You will be all the better for it. Good luck with this. This is not an easy task. Weeding out the bad seeds can take a long time, but the quality of your life will change dramatically.