Wondering why your relationships always die off? Below are five common friendship killers. If you see yourself in any of them, be prepared for a lonely life.
Friendship Killer #1: Time
There are many sayings about the beauty of time. Time heals all things. Time is on your side. Yet, too much time away from a friend can turn the lights off on a relationship. Why? The connection between you and the other person gets weak. You develop new interests. Then, suddenly, the friendship is stale and dies off.
Friendship Killer #2: Pride
Think you’re always right? If so, be ready to lose good friendships throughout your entire life. No matter how great you are, at one time or another, you’ll have to eat a little crow to maintain a relationship. You also will have to forgive a person for an error in judgment. Too much pride or ego won’t let you to do either. Therefore, end the in, you lose out.
Friendship Killer #3: Distance
Forget about what you see on TV. Distance normally doesn’t make the heart grow founder. Instead, it usually breaks ties. You can’t catch up with the person and spend time like you used to. Then, after a while, you give up. You realize the person has a new life in their new city or town. So, you both move on.
Friendship Killer #4: Jealousy
If you can’t stand to see a friend get anything you don’t have, jealousy is about to tear up your relationship. The green-eyed monster will convince you to act in uncomely ways out of jealousy. You’ll be negative when you should be positive – or worse, mean. Be prepared for your good friend to start ignoring you and eventually cutting you off. No one likes hanging around a jealousy person, especially if they have goals in life.
Friendship Killer #5: Newcomers
This last friendship killer is the most devious one because most of us don’t see it coming. Your best friend meets a new person at work or at the gym. He or she tries to bring them into the group. Then, the next thing you know, your longtime buddy no longer has time for you. Unfortunately, newcomers into a group can change the dynamics. They give your friends a choice – do they want to hang out with you or this new cool person. If you’re less exciting and not as nice, you get the boot.
See room for change? Don’t allow these friendship killers to rule in your relationships. Nip them in the bud, so you can enjoy long, fruitful connections.
