Ok, so you finally got a date with that special someone. Now what, right? You want to have fun, get to know each other and actually act like yourself. So, here are some tips that will help you to get comfortable talking to that potential last first date of your life!
1. Be yourself. I know this sounds simple and obvious, but really do it. I know on a first date you may want to try to impress your date by acting a certain way, or acting like you like things you really don’t. So don’t do that! If you make it past the first date with this person, you want it to be because they are really into you. As opposed to them being into the person you want them to think you are. I mean really, they are going to find out sooner rather than later that you actually eat meat, eat more than just a salad for a meal and the such. I think a great example of what not to do would be in “27 Dresses”. Tess, Jane’s sister, completely lies about who she is to impress the guy she is dating. How did that turn out for her? Well…maybe ok actually at the end of the movie…BUT when he found out she wasn’t who she said she was, he called off their wedding and felt like he didn’t know her at all. Do you want that?!?! No! Nobody does. We all want to be appreciated for who we are, so just act normal and don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t.
2. Talk about things are you comfortable talking about. If you don’t want to talk about something, because it seems too personal or you just don’t want to go there on the first date, don’t. Instead steer the conversation to something you’d rather talk about. If your date asks about your home life while you were growing up, and that’s not something you’d like to talk about, then steer it to something you really enjoyed during childhood. You could also say something like, “You know, I will have to tell you about that sometime. I really enjoyed riding horses as a child though. How about you?” Personally, I wish I would have realized this sooner. I could have avoided the awkward silences and stares that followed my date asking me something I didn’t feel comfortable answering. (On a first date…or maybe ever…)
3. Take a friend a long. Better yet, make it a double date! That way you are sure to be yourself, plus it is a safer environment for getting to know each other in general. I especially recommend this one if you are meeting someone for the first time. Maybe you met them online or it’s a blind date–so why not bring a friend along to make sure he’s not an axe murderer…like the movie. (“So I married an Axe Murder”) It’s also an easy way to have enough people to go bowling or do something fun later on, if it all goes well! Plus, it would make it easier to jet if it doesn’t go so well.
4. Go somewhere you both enjoy–like a museum or art gallery. Then you two will have plenty things to talk about without it having to get ultra personal right away! You two can get to know each other through the act of conversing. This could also be a Zoo, or really anything with attractions and such. If you are really into amusement parks that would work too. Just be aware of the fact that you two will have to more than likely sit right next to each other many rides in a row. So be sure you don’t get motion sick…or don’t get embarrassed when one of you does.
Have fun and don’t be too serious. You never know what may happen….I mean, this really could be your very last first date ever!