Did you know you could make a difference in someone’s life and make him feel good, not cost you a dime and be at peace with your self? How, show you care. Whether you live in a metropolis or a village you’re exposed to people yearning to be noticed and respected, and you can meet that need. You weren’t created to be satisfied in and of yourself but to give of yourself to others. It’s easy and needs no planning simply be aware of other’s feelings.
I’ve listed five simple ways to give of yourself I consistently use. Most of the time I’m rewarded through verbal gratitude or with a look that conveys more than words ever could.
Forgiving is rewarding because it usually surprises the forgiven person. In society today, forgiveness is unusual because it means the forgiving person gives up a right, her right of restitution. Something as simple as an argument, over whatever, can lead to alienating former friends, because they’re too stubborn to forgive and forget. Forgiveness heals relationships.
It doesn’t matter how old you are or what position you’re in praise is appreciated, but doesn’t often come. Sometime, when you’re with a friend find something to compliment him about, then watch his face. I’ll bet his look will make you glad you gave the compliment. In addition, always compliment before you criticize that’s important because criticism can sometimes be emotional, harsher than necessary and feelings hurt. If you first think praise, chances are the criticism that follows will be civil.
Always Show Respect
I believe to forgive someone respect must be involved. You don’t have to respect what she’s done but nevertheless she’s part of God’s creation and need to be respected as such. If you don’t respect her for that reason, you run the risk of making yourself a god and that can lead to disrespecting anyone who doesn’t believe or think as you do, doesn’t live in the right part of town, or whatever. Therefore, to keep self-serving feelings under control, respect everyone.
Always Listen and Talk Less
Listening is tough, especially when you want to say something and the other person won’t quit talking long enough to take a breath. You’re listening more for a break so you can say something, because you think what you have to say is more important than what he’s saying. Suddenly, he finishes and asks your opinion about what he said you look up with a blank stare because you have no idea what he said. Listening fits into the respect category if we don’t listen to someone we don’t respect them. Learn to listen.
Always Keep Promises
To others you are your word, so when you say you’re going to do something, do it. This also falls under the respect category and applies to all you’re contacts. If someone is worth telling, you’re going to do something, just do it. When we don’t, it’s self-serving and hurts feelings because we’re telling them they’re not worth the time or effort.
I believe it’s the golden rule of doing to others as you’d like them to do to you. Make that your motivator and I’m sure you’ll find serving others more rewarding than serving yourself.