First Date. These are two words that most women dread. There is so much that goes into a first date for a woman that most men don’t even think about. The hair has to be styled, hands and feet must be done and the wardrobe must be immaculate for the evening. Sometimes you become so nervous that your hands start shaking and you’re sweating profusely. This guy has potential to be bumped to your A list; he is kind, good looking and has a great job so you have to make sure you don’t screw this up.
More often than not, the first date might be dinner to a fancy restaurant as the guy wants to impress you. These are a few of my personal tips on how not to screw up the first date:
1. Order clear drinks – Absolutely no Coca- Cola, fruit punch or red wine. If you are a clumsy person like me and being nervous, you are bound to spill something on your clothes or on the table cloth. If you are leaning towards alcohol, stick to a white wine. It goes well with most foods and if you happen to waste it when the stain clears up it won’t be a bright shade of pink! If alcohol is not your forte lemonade always works and in my experience works quite well with most outfits.
2. Chicken is your best friend. You might be to a fancy restaurant and want to try the soup of the day or their famous lobster but DO NOT DO IT!!! Stay clear of the things that require too much work to eat. Pastas and anything with extra garlic or seasoning is not working in your favor. Your breath will become a nightmare and nothing scares a man off more than someone with a severe case of halitosis. Chicken is safe. It doesn’t leave a bad scent, goes well with wine and is easy to slice with a knife so your meat or fork doesn’t go flying across the table will trying to cut a piece to put in your mouth.
3. Come prepared. A woman should always carry the essentials in her purse no matter how small the bag is. In this case, a packet of Shout and a small bottle of Scope can work wonders if you did not adhere to tips 1 and 2. If all else fails, breath mints can be your best friend.
4. Keep the conversation light. This is the first date; you are not planning a wedding. Take baby steps in getting to know each other. Learn about what they like to do in their free time, their favorite food or even what they like to watch on television. A few questions about their education or their parents are fine; however, this is NOT the time to ask him how much money he makes or why his other relationships did not work out. This is not a one shot thing, you would like another date. Do not come off as overbearing.
5. Do not bruise the man’s ego. Ladies, I know we love to let everyone know how free and independent we are. We like them to know that we can pay for our own meals but this is not the time to throw it in the man’s face. He invited you out which means he will take care of the bill. DO NOT offer to go dutch unless this was already discussed and DO NOT snatch the bill when the waiter puts it on the table. It does not look good on your part and is insulting to the man.
These are just a few rules that I live by when going on a first date. While they are not 100 percent fool proof they can provide a guideline on how to make the night a success. If the first date goes well then that leaves the opportunity for a call the next day and a possible second date.
Baby steps, take it one date at a time.