Shopping for a man? Today the Internet is where everyone goes to find anything they need. Finding a good man on line is like shopping for a used car. The problem is that when you are buying a used car you can pay extra for a carfax report to find out the car’s history. You cannot do that with a man. Here are some tips on how to shop for a good man.
Warranty.
In many states, you need to stay married for at least 10 years for the warranty aka alimony to be in effect. Do you really want to take that big of a chunk out of your life? The payout can’t possibly be worth it. Buyer beware: What you see during the “honeymoon phase” may not be what you are going to get.
Honeymoon phase.
Speaking of that lovely time when everything is new, there will be red flags. Don’t get so blinded by the niceties that you fail to see them. Subtle comments, especially about money, can tell a lot about a man’s true personality. Be aware!
Test drive often.
Checking him out under many different conditions is helpful. You test drive a car on the highway and the side roads to see how it performs. On a sunny day, all may be fine but how does it handle in the rain? Sometimes it rains a lot. Will you be sorry?
Sometimes leasing is better than buying outright.
When you lease it lessens your responsibilities. Compare this to keeping it casual. Give it plenty of time in order to experience all the storms and sunshine that life brings. If you commit too soon, you will be stuck and it is painful and annoying to get rid of a man that just doesn’t fit your needs.
Never make a purchase before inspecting the merchandise in person.
Don’t make a final purchase alone.
Having two sets of eyes can be helpful. Your trusted BFF might see things that you miss. Listen to your BFF! Your BFF is also great for reminding you not to settle that there are plenty of used cars out there, maybe you just need to keep looking. No need to settle for a Chevrolet when you really wanted a BMW.
But I need a ride!!
Keep looking but in the meantime, a cab aka friend with benefits can help you get around. Don’t like cabs? Enjoy being with your girls. Once you find “the one” there will not be as much time for that kind of fun.
On line dating is like blindly shopping. Maybe you can get a feel of who he says he is but until you have a daily relationship, it is fantasy. Actions speak louder than words. Seeing who he is makes it real. Take a picture of a just-waxed car in good light and it can look brand-new. See it in person and the dents and dings are more obvious.
If only there was an aisle in the local Walmart where you could find the kind of man you are looking for but there is no such aisle. As much of a pain as shopping for a used car is, shopping for a man is worse. There is a lot more at stake. Shop smart!
