Every Man’s Battle, by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker, is a unique book written specifically to address sexual integrity in men. When it was published in 2000 it was the only book of its kind. Since then it has sold millions of copies and has become the foundation of a strategic self-help book series, helping millions of men, women, and teenage boys and girls, learn how to beat sexual temptations in our sexually charged culture.
This is a strongly Christian book but, quite frankly, every man needs to read it. It is incredibly helpful, unlike so many in the self-help genre Yes, even if you aren’t a Christian, or even dislike Christianity, sexual integrity is important. And, the strategies in this book actually work. Married men especially will find their marriage relationships greatly strengthened, as well as the sexual aspects of their marriage. Every Man’s Battle includes true stories of men who’ve struggled, application of sexual principles, input from wives, and step-by-step instruction on how to gain sexual integrity.
The strong presence of real strategies is why Every Man’s Battle is a truly helpful book. Sexuality is wired in a starkly different way in men than in women. The book’s focus is on the real thought life of real men, addressing men’s weaknesses specifically rather than using broad generalities as most books of this type tend to do.
Some topics found in Every Man’s Battle include; why sexual integrity is about our thoughts, men have these struggles just because they are men, why women find it difficult to understand men’s fight with sexual integrity, strategies like “bouncing the eyes” and “starving the eyes,” and much more.
Every Man’s Battle is written extremely well. It flows naturally from start to finish. Stories of other men’s struggle to maintain sexual integrity are presented in such a way that draws the reader in. Being a Christian book, there are no pornographic entries or anything charged with sexual innuendo.
However, due to its subject matter, Every Man’s Battle is emotionally intense and as such, hard to read at times. Every man will find himself in its pages. Examples will hit hard close to home. But, if you want to turn your marriage into the paradise it should be, Every Man’s Battle is invaluable to that end.
Whether or not you are Christian, Every Man’s Battle is the very best tool a man can use to gain sexual integrity. And, not only will you be fortified against sexual temptations, you will notice your wives feeling much more secure in your relationship as she notices your changing behavior. She will also become more sexually attractive to you, increasing the sacred sexual pleasures for you both. Indeed, maintaining sexual integrity increases sexual pleasure and intimacy in marriage.
I would be remiss not to add a note for women. Every Man’s Battle is targeted for men specifically. Even so, it will help you understand the true sexual nature of men, and you’ll gain real understanding of our struggle with sexual integrity. But be forewarned, chances are your current understanding is fraught with unrealistic stereotypes and expectations. Read Every Man’s Battle with the most open mind you can muster. If you do, you’ll be able to help your man in his fight like never before. If you don’t, you’ll simply become angry. He needs your support and understanding!
Read Every Man’s Battle and use the accompanying work book. Put it on your required reading list. It’s my personal guarantee you’ll find it among the top books in your list of favorite non-fiction titles. Be prepared for amazingly positive change.
Personal experience (This book works!)
Arterbun, Stephen, and Fred Stoeker. Every Man’s Battle. Colorado Springs: Waterbrook Press, 2000