There are many reasons why a parent choices to adopt a child. Your reasons are valid. However, you must consider a few things before make the final decision to adopt a child.
1. Are genes important?
You have to come to the realization that your genes will not be passed on. If you take a lot of pride in your family’s bloodline then this may affect a choice to adopt. Although, a lot of people can and will accept a child as part of their family regardless of DNA.
2. Will your family accept an adopted child?
Even if you can accept that the child may not be biological yours, other family members may not. You are the parents but the child is actually becoming a member of an extended family. You really don’t want any child to be treated differently then any other member of the family. Depending on the situation the child comes from or the age this can be a very big factor.
3. Do you have time for a child?
Every child takes a lot of time. An adopted child may need extra time and attention.
4. What age would you like to adopt
You need to know what age of child you would like to have. Although you may want an infant, there can be advantages and disadvantages to every age. If you have an affinity for teens then adopting an older child might fit you best.
5. The background where the child came from
Children coming from a physically, verbally, or mentally abusive home may need extra love and attention. These children will need to be assured that they are in a safe environment. They will require a lot more patience.
6. Can I handle special needs?
A special needs child may require a lot of attention. Before adopting a special needs child you may want to research the needs of the child. You have to be hones with yourself and know if you can handle the challenges of a special needs child.
7. Does race or culture matter
Your child will want to know why they look different. They will want to know things about their culture. Celebrating the different culture’s holidays may come into play. You need to be willing to look things up and willing to celebrate the differences.
8. When, How, and If you will tell the story of the adoption
There are many ways to tell the story of your adoption. There are also people out there that choice not to tell their child until they are much older, maybe even an adult. Your choice is your own, but having a plan is essential before the adoption process starts.