I am the cook in my little family. I like cooking for people. Ever since I moved out of my mothers house, I’ve been free to cook what wanted. Instead of just baking boxed brownies and the like. My favorites chef to get recipes from is Emril.
When someone comes over for dinner it, of course, isn’t unusual to have a dinner plan. Just last week my husband mentioned to me that one of his friends was coming over and that pork chops sounded great with mashed potatoes. I was willing to cook. After all I need to make sure that my kids are feed as well for dinner time.
I set to cooking and said hello to my husbands friend when he walked in. They began talking with each other and soon were on the Internet watching a video on Youtube about glitches found in the Modern Warfare 2 video game. I heard them laughing and saying that they should “try that” and “no way that’s not possible”. The cooking went well. I made Shake-N-Bake pork chops in the oven and decided to make homemade chicken fried steaks for myself on the stove. The potatoes cooked until very tender with the red skins on and as soon as I was done with the main food and veggies, I made the homemade gravy. As it doesn’t take more than five to ten minutes depending on your stove and pot to make.
It is common courtesy and practice to feed the children first no matter if they are guests or not, then the guests, your household and then yourself. After delivering the food to my daughter, prepped and ready to eat so that she didn’t have to use a knife, I went to give my husbands friend a plate. He looked at the food, gave look and shook his head. I didn’t say anything and walked back into the kitchen and continued to hand my husband his food. He asked his friend why he didn’t take plate. The reply was, “That gravy looks weird. and I don’t like breaded pork chops.” My husband told him that it was his fault and that he was missing out. He mentioned that the gravy was homemade from scratch and that it never failed to satisfy. Still, his friend denied food.
Later, after everyone had eaten and had a snack to follow, I heard my husbands friend complain that he was hungry.
My husband: “There is plenty in the kitchen. Go make yourself something. Dinner’s over.”
The friend: “You got sandwich food?”
Husband: “Yeah, go ahead and make yourself one”
Friend: “Nah, could you make it for me?”
Husband: “Dude, get up and make it yourself.”
Friend: “Nah, it’s okay I wont worry about it.”
Husband: “Whatever, dude.”
I came out from the bedroom and told this friend that we weren’t his parents and that he doesn’t need to boss people around in a house that he doesn’t live in or have partial responsibility in paying bills for.
The next, time he came over, my husband asked if such-and-such sounded good for dinner. Before his friend could respond, I retorted, “I am not making for for him, I told you that.”
His friend got all mad when I mentioned why and he actually tried to start a fight with me. That was when my husband decided that his friend needed to go home before anything happened.
So, in short. it is very rude to go to someones house and expect only what you want from them and and then refuse when it is offered to you out of kindness to begin with only then to complain that you aren’t satisfied later. Not only that, but to also boss people around in their own home. More has happened sine this incident. His friend doesn’t like to come over much now or even stay long. I believe it’s because he doesn’t like the fact that I have a say as a female in my abode. This isn’t the Elizabethan times, don’t expect women to be seen and not heard just as children had been years ago. Times have changed. The best part, I have back up. My husband.