I think everybody, at least everyone who tries to do, what they do, well, deserves to be recognized. I don’t think we will ever, as a society, be in the position to recognize everyone for everything. Once we start doing that, getting recognized will be nothing special. It will just be another thing we do.
Mom’s and Dad’s, whether they are stay at home or work outside, deserve recognition simply because they have contributed to raising and keeping a family together. If the family is healthy and prosperous they deserve recognition even more. However, unless one of them has done something spectacular, they probably do not get any more recognition than they receive from their own family members.
I don’t know how to quantify how much recognition one actually deserves. Some things someone does and gets recognized for can really surprise others. Yet, there are those who do things that truly deserve public recognition who will never be in the limelight. I believe we, as regular citizens and civilians, should be satisfied with whatever recognition we earn from our own family. If I can garner a thank you and a chocolate cake out of my wife some evening then I am happy and I believe I have been recognized for whatever it is I have done. I don’t even care what it is; I just want the recognition.
Now, there is no question, a stay at home Mom’s work is challenging and sometimes even overpowering. There is some truth to the statement “a woman’s work is never done.” Staying at home is great, but whoever stays at home is expected to maintain that home. The home has to be purring when everyone wakes up and still be purring when they all come home from their regular daily activities. Now there is a challenge.
I’m not one to put much stock in the tired comparison of what a stay at home Mom does versus what positions or vocations she should hold because of those activities. There are those who have said a stay at home Mom is a Plumber, the Roofer, the Chauffeur, the Chef, the Accountant, the Gardener, the Auto Mechanic, the Teacher, the Housekeeper, the CEO, the Nurse, and so much more.
The truth of the matter is, she is none of those. She may have done one or perhaps two tasks that would fall within the realm of a specific vocation’s job description, but that does not make her one of that ilk. I mean, stopping a leaky faucet by changing a washer does not make her a plumber; it only says she has many different tasks to do. That one she did good – yay Mom. If she were a plumber she would be doing that same thing many times over, day in and day out.
I have taught several classes on different business topics but I am certainly not a teacher. I framed my first house; you know swung the hammer and wileded the saw, but I am definitely not a carpenter. I have changed a broken light switch but I am a far cry from being an electrician. Simply because I do one or two tasks that would normally fall in some professional person’s job description doesn’t make me one of them. It simply is not that simple.
If that were the case, I could be called an accountant, an arbitrator, an auto mechanic, a computer technician, a doctor, a nurse, a marketing specialist, an architect, even a sawyer, but I am not any of those. I know who those people are and when I need their services I go to them. On occasion I may attempt one small task that happens to fall within their field of expertise. If I am successful and acceptably complete the task, I am happy, but I don’t claim to be one of them.
It’s a joke to apply all those job titles to what a stay at home Mom does throughout the day, then add up their salarys and say that’s what she should be getting paid. If that were the case we would all stay at home. Every one of us, man and woman, would stay at home rather than work outside, for wages like that. We do things around the house and yard that would look like they belong to other professions. If I could do that little trick of applying all my activity to a certain profession then get their pay, I could get rich quick. I could make much more money just by stayng at home than I could by working for someone else. It just doesn’t work that way.
Still, even if I bunk that tired old test of saying a stay at home Mom is all of those things, I know she does a lot. She also holds a position you probably will never find a job description for; that of Mom. I will never be a Mom, my gender will not allow me to hold that lofty position. I am a Dad, but that is not quite so impressive as being a Mom. Many people apply for the position, but so few succeed. Many try and many fail.
It is truly a challenge to be a Mom and an achievement deserving of recognition to successfully hold that position. I don’t forsake a Mom of any of her gifts and rewards, I just want to make sure we all understand she is none of those other positions whatsoever. For what it is worth, I would like to take this moment to give stay at home Mom’s a bit of public recognition. I, for one, truly cherish the value and benefit my own stay at home wife affords me and my household. I would certainly be lost without her waiting there to greet me when I get home. I proudly recognize her and all stay at home Mom’s as a deserving and valuable individual. She is worth far more than any of those other professions put together.
Don’t sell her short by trying to get away with saying she is a carpenter or a mechanic or a plumber. She is something far more valuable than that. She is a composite that is very difficult to master, yet she has. She is an individual who has multiple individuals to please, yet she does. She is a defender of tradition and a supporter of progression and she excels in her efforts. Before anything else, She is Mom.