Should I call him? Should I call him back after he breaks our date? There are plenty of reasons not to call him back; there are also times when you are being petty. All that being said, there are 10 must-know reasons that show you are justified to never call him again. Ever!
Should I Call Him If We Weren’t Really Talking At Our First Date?
Tip: Avoid the strong silent type. He may look good in the movies, but he’s not relationship material.
You and he had so little in common that you could not even keep a conversation going in a setting where everyone is on their best behavior. If you could not find common ground or even just chitchat, you are just not meant to be. No need to prolong the connection with calls.
Should I Call Him Back After He Breaks Our Date?
Tip: He who does the breaking does the calling.
Of all the reasons not to call him back, this one is near the top of the list. If he stood you up, he needs to set up the next date. It is not so much a matter of digging in your heels but giving him the opportunity to opt out of dating you in the first place; maybe he didn’t stand you up but just wasn’t all that interested … but he didn’t know how to say it.
Do Not Call If He Asked Your BFF for Her Number
Tip: If he seems interested in your friend today, whom will he chase tomorrow?
Do not blame your friend for giving out her number; presumably you are all relatively unattached. The burden lies with him: if he wants to get to know your friend, let him. Stop him now and he may continue to date you … until he finds another girl you may not know about.
Ignore Calls from a Strongly Opinionated Man Who Lacks Tolerance
Tip: Opinionated passion tempered with tolerance and humor is attractive; without it the same trait is bigotry.
Avoid the attentions of a bigot. There is nothing wrong with having strong opinions, and it is actually a good thing to date a man who doesn’t respond to queries with ‘whatever you think, dear.’ On the other hand, a person who is so strongly opinionated that he is bigoted is not relationship material.
What Does It Mean When a Guy Wants You To Call Him About Your Behavior?
Tip: Do you want to date a man who lectures you on ‘being you?’
Among the reasons not to call him back is the ominous message that he wants to discuss “your behavior” with you. Assuming you were not being inappropriate, drunk or both, there is little reason for you to be told how not to be. Just think: if he is acting like this now, what will happen when you marry?
Should I Call Him If He Wants to Date Other People?
Tip: No! Why set yourself up for playing second fiddle?
It is an interesting conundrum when the object of your desire tells you he wants to see other people. Why not just break up with you? The answer is simple: he hasn’t found anyone else yet and wants to keep you on standby. The odds are good that he is not telling potential conquests of his plan to ‘see other people.’
Avoid Him Like the Plague: the Touching Type Who Has a Hard Time Accepting ‘No’
Tip: Mom was right when she said that men only want one thing. (At least when considering this one…)
Another one of the top reasons not to call him back is a general lack of respect for your wishes with respect to boundaries. If you have a ‘hands off’ policy and your date kept crossing the line, do not call him back. The odds are good that he will keep pushing you until you give in (or worse).
Do Not Call a Man Who Won’t Let You Get a Word in Edgewise
Tip: Why bother with someone who genuinely doesn’t care about you or your opinions?
It is easy to date someone who dominates the conversation. After all, it takes a lot of responsibility off your shoulders. On the flipside, there is nothing emptier than spending a day in the presence of someone who is genuinely disinterested in what makes you tick. Avoid him.
Should I Call Him Back If He Says He is Sorry?
Tip: Remember that his dial works, too.
This is an iffy situation and assuming the faux pas was not too egregious, it could show a forgiving spirit to call him back and accept his apology. On the flipside, if the reason for his phone apology is serious, then the burden of making the connection is on him.
If it has to do with physically acting out against you, this is a phone call you should never make or accept. The number you want is 9-1-1.
Do Not Call If You Are Not Interested
Tip: Don’t play the “let’s just be friends” card. It is too cliché and never works out.
In a healthy interaction, one party will signal an interest in the other and pick up on subtle clues either encouraging or discouraging further exploration. An encouragement could result in a request for a date.
A discouragement – in a well adjusted person who values a personal friendship – results in an unspoken respect of the other party’s decision not to pursue anything closer. There is no need for great discussions. If he keeps after you in an effort to “be your friend,” there is something decidedly odd about that. Do not call him.