Do men kiss and tell? Yes and no. Men are not big talkers about their relationship troubles or sexual promiscuity. However, we do like to talk about our “conquests” or one night stands with friends, but we rarely share any information about such subject when we are in a serious relationship. We rarely gossip, but when we do, we share intimate details to brag to our friends. This article will look at what guys really talk about when we are intimate with a short-term or long-term partner.
We discuss our one-night stands
Let us face it ladies, we all talk about our one night stands, regardless of how good they were. The reason for this is that we feel no emotional or physical attachment to our partner for the night; therefore, we feel no sense of duty to keep what happens in the bedroom secret. In the scenario of the one nightstand, we typically only talk about if the sex was good or not. Unfortunately, most of us forget anything that we may have talked about in bed, and will hardly talk about the experience as a potential for a commitment.
We keep things private if you ask
Most guys are respectful when it comes to kissing and telling. If you ask us not to talk about the experience to our friends, we will often keep the secret to respect you. However, if you do not say anything then it is fair game for us to brag the next day.
How we describe the situation
Unlike women who care about the quality of the experience, men care more about the bragging rights than if the experience was actually good. Having numerous male friends who are more than promiscuous, I can say that we like to brag, and we will hardly leave out any graphic details. If the experience was bad, we may brag anyway and exaggerate the details. The reason for this is that men often view sex as an accomplishment rather than the bonding experience that women often feel.
If we are in a serious relationship, we may brag, but only to close friends
Serious relationships for us are different from a one-night stand, or a short-term relationship. For instance, I hardly ever talk about the details while I am in a relationship out of respect for the woman I am dating. The details can make her feel uncomfortable when she is hanging out with our friends; therefore, we like to keep it as private as possible to avoid an awkward moment. When we discuss the details, it will be to one or two very close friends that share their same experiences with us. We often do this to get advice and reassurance that we are still men, even if we are tied down.
If we do not get lucky, we do not talk about it
If we are simply “hooking-up” and do not get lucky that night, we will hardly ever tell our friends. The fact of the matter is we do not care if you were a good kisser or not, we want either something for the night, or perhaps a date on a later occasion. From my experience, men are much easier to engage in sexual activity after meeting the person for a short amount of time, whereas women need more convincing. This is basic biology, and we have no reason to discuss the experience if it does not lead to the bedroom or a possible relationship.