For married couples with or without children, introducing a scheduled “date night” will allow you to maintain a sense of sanity, and it will offer you something romantic to plan on sharing in the near future. Variety truly is the “spice of life.” Keep that in mind when planning your next date night by planning something new and unfamiliar. Always remember that the prerequisite for a successful evening alone for a married couple is dropping the kids off at a babysitter’s house! While any married couple can go out for a nice dinner — after countless years — a date night at your favorite restaurant is probably a bit lackluster — for one or both of you.
According to The New York Times, “Most studies of love and marriage show that the decline of romantic love over time is inevitable. The butterflies of early romance quickly flutter away and are replaced by familiar, predictable feelings of long-term attachment. But several experiments show that novelty — simply doing new things together as a couple — may help bring the butterflies back, recreating the chemical surges of early courtship.”
Here are a few detailed ideas and tips for executing a proper date night as a married couple. These ideas will make you want to say “I do” all over again.
Visit a Local B&B. Discover the allure of a historic bed and breakfast. Bedandbreakfast.com is an excellent resource, if you are interested in researching accommodations at a bed and breakfast inn. A date night stay at a B&B will lead you to look at your city in an entirely different manner — you can experience a romantic retreat that is off the beaten path. Typically B&Bs provide that extra special touch that we often miss at chain hotels — imagine a delicious homemade breakfast, afternoon wine and hors d’oeuvres, and family style hospitality. Elegantly appointed rooms often boast the finest bed linens, towels, luxurious baths and steam showers, along with cozy fireplaces.
Throughout the world — cities like Savannah, Asheville, New Orleans, Charleston, Key West, Napa, London and Rome feature a sampling of the best in B&B accommodations. Even if you are not living in one of these beautiful destinations — your city or town is sure to offer a charming bed and breakfast inn that will allow you to get some romance, rest and relaxation with your partner.
Camp in the Backyard. Too often married couples forget to kick back, and pretend to be young people dating again. On a comfortable spring or summer evening — set aside time to spend the night camping in a tent in your backyard (or your living room if you are not into sleeping outside). Instead of thinking of an uncomfortable summer camp — ponder “Arabian Desert Decadence.”
Plan to turn on the fire pit in your backyard to enhance the cozy atmosphere of your date night. Make the interior of the tent as comfortable as possible — furnish it with down comforters placed atop sleeping bags and use a couple of standard pillows. Consider using a small inflatable mattress underneath the bedding if you have one on hand. Scatter fresh red rose petals on top of the down comforters right before dinner. The addition of a few throw pillows in deep hues of burgundy and plum will provide a touch of exotic Moroccan flair. For a bit of ambience inside of the actual tent — use battery operated candles and add a portable music player with your favorite sexy music.
Pick up a nice fragrant bottle of massage oil, and stop by Victoria’s Secret, a retailer like Agent Provocateur, or any lingerie store you like for something sexy to wear for date night. Buy 2 servings of a scrumptious chocolate dessert from a local bakery to eat — pair the dessert with a good bottle of champagne or wine. Use real glass or crystal to serve. Sit back, relax and enjoy your evening of “Arabian Desert Decadence.”
Dine Under the Stars. While vacationing in Belize, my friend and I dined outside under the stars alone near our villa. One night our table was set up close to the shore — on other nights dinner was set up in the midst of lush palm trees on the private island where we were staying. Decorative white lanterns and lights were placed throughout the foliage around us — the same type of lights used at weddings and formal events. In theory — it would not be difficult to create this type of little island getaway in your own backyard. Our meal was set up on a small lightweight table — it featured a linen tablecloth, silverware and china — the epitome of casual island elegance.
For your next scheduled date night — create a similar atmosphere outside of your home by using a small card or outdoor table, and place a tablecloth on top. Set up the date on a patio or in the middle of your backyard.
Pick up takeaway from a nice restaurant or create a delicious meal at home of your own. A mixed green salad, fresh grilled seafood like shrimp or lobster, and a bottle of your favorite wine really complement the theme of a remote island getaway. Place a few candles on the table and enjoy your romantic dinner date under the stars.
“Variety’s the very spice of life, That gives it all its flavor.” — William Cowper
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