New military spouses who have never had any exposure of the military way of life are often shocked by the lifestyle, rules and regulations once they marry their fiancé(e). As civilians, military spouses are not in the chain of command and are not required follow many of the policies that their active duty spouses must abide by. However, as a new military spouse, you may be concerned about a list of issues that have not yet been addressed.
Benefits for military spouses do not kick in until they are married and can produce their marriage certificate as proof of their family relationship to their active duty military sponsor. That means you will not be able to obtain a military dependent ID card to shop on the base or use services until after you are married. Once you are married, your spouse will need to enter you into DEERS and TRICARE. Only then will you be entitled to take advantage of benefits on the military installation such as shopping services, obtain legal advice and access the medical facilities.
Separations are common for military couples as they spend time apart due to temporary duty, deployments, training and so forth. This can be hard to handle for new military spouses who have never spent so much as a day apart from their spouse before. However, the military is geared up to support families who are going through separations due to deployment. Support services are available on base or post, many of which are free of charge.
Housing issues are a concern for many new military spouses as they adjust to the military way of life. Will they be entitled to live in government housing on the military installation? Will the military move them onto the military installation free of charge? What standards are families expected to abide by if they move into base housing? The best thing you can do is to speak to the housing office on the military installation to find answers to these and other important questions you might have about housing issues.
New military spouses have many new issues to deal with after they marry their spouse. Some of the most common concerns they have are related to military benefits, how to handle deployments and overcoming housing issues. However, there is no need to suffer in silence. Enlist your spouse’s help to overcome some of these issues and speak to the appropriate installation authorities for help in overcoming some of the other issues.