I have been having a personal debate with myself, one in which I have come to a logical conclusion in my own mind. Although it is a painful one, it is an undertaking that is actually going to give someone close to me an achievement that is to be commended.
I’m talking here about relationships and careers, and where the boundaries lie in regards a relationship and a career.
So what if the two cannot be juggled together?
There may come a time in someone’s husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, when they have to make a decision to be apart because of a career. Albeit on a temporary basis this decision can be quite traumatic for both people, it is a daunting thing to be mulling over a separation for even a short time, but when it is weeks or months what do you do?
It is time to start thinking sensibly in, put things into perspective and think about the future. A few weeks or months is nothing in comparison to the rest of your lives, and if the studies or job/job training have benefits then it is all great for your futures.
There are a few things you might want to consider if for any reason you are experiencing some kind of trauma with regard to career separation:
• Maybe consider relocating together on a temporary basis, this could involve renting out your current home on a short term contract, finding a job in the area of the said career opportunity and maybe renting a small apartment short term.
• If you have children you might want to consider upheaval if they are at school, your kids are your bond and being there for them can be great for the soul and take some stress away. Find things to do with them, and try to enjoy your time together. Your partner will appreciate the time you spend with the children, and so will your kids. It can only help to build your family bond.
• Maybe take the kids with you; there are crèche facilities, schools and colleges all over the country. Even temporary schooling is better than none at all. You could even home tutor for a short while.
• If you have internet access the pair of you, then you could spend some time on a webcam talking, it is more or less free to do, even though it is not as great as being together it can be less stressful than little or no contact with your partner at all.
• Take up studies at the same college or University if you can, as well as being close to each other, you will both achieve a goal.
These are only a few things you can consider, personally the career choice my partner has made will bring her so many achievements and goals together, her dreams will start being realized, for me that is all the support I need in my separation anxiety situation. I know she will be happy, I know she will return, and I know when we are finally together she will have found herself having experienced things many people never get to do, and achieved part of her dreams.
Maybe I will join her after a few weeks, I have a few plans (has a big smile) but one thing I know, our bond is much stronger than separation anxiety we will get through it. And when we do our bond will have been made so much more secure… absence makes the heart grow fonder, a statement I already know to be true.