Once you get involved with boys, you start to realize what big idiots they are. I mean, they’re so cute, yet so stupid.
They always acted weird with me growing up. They will be so mean to me, then they will ask me to be their girlfriend. It confused me. I was like, “Do you hate me or do you like me?” They have such a strange way of doing things.
As I got older, I started to realize that they were still dumb, yet smart enough to pull off some very scandalous things. Some guys convinced me that they were really into me. We would talk to each other all the time, flirt with each other, and then I would here through the grapevine that Mr. Charming is charming other girls on the side! Boys always had the most believable lies. Then, when I found out they were lying, I felt like, “Duh, Krista! How can you not know that?!” I always ended up feeling like the dummy.
Sounds like I have a little bit of baggage, huh? Well, I hope I can keep you from having any. Boys are pretty simple. We just think they’re hard to deal with because we were raised differently from them–and have a different genetic makeup.
I think it’s safe to say that we are more ethical than boys. We are more likely to tell the truth, to share, to say please and thank you-you know… we have more morals. What’s unacceptable to us may be completely acceptable to them. They think differently from us, and that’s okay.
We as girls need to learn how to read boys. We need to know how they work, and how to get along with them. Here’s some rules to follow…
Rule # 1. Boys lie because they think we want them to. What do I mean by that? I mean that boys tell us what they think we want to hear. It’s not because they are horrible people, but it’s because they (and we women) were taught to impress others, and make others like them. They were taught to have game. So when they talk to you, they tell you what they believe you want them to say. I heard one man say, “Men lie because women don’t like the truth”. Perhaps he’s right. If you tell a boy you are falling in love with him, and he tells you back, you may feel good inside. But it may not be the truth. If he tells you the truth, and says “Well, I’m certainly not falling in love with you“, that may hurt your feelings, and you may start to think he’s a jerk. So, he tells you what you want to hear so that you won’t start to hate him. Get it?
Rule #2. There’s always another girl. When boys are young, whether they are in their teens or in their twenties, there is always going to be another girl they find attractive. As long as they are young and immature, they will be free and explore. They are not going to tie themselves down to anyone. And you should be the same way. You are also young, and you shouldn’t be taking relationships seriously either. Boys always keep their options open, and you should too. You’re a kid for crying out loud!
Rule #3. They only care about manhood. At this stage in life, boys only care about developing into a man. They want to do anything that will push them into manhood. That’s why they cling to their friends and not to you. When they are with their friends, they feel manly. They have all that testosterone flowing, and they get an ego boost. This is why they like to have multiple girlfriends or sex partners. It’s all good for their manhood-their ego. So if you see that they ignore you when other girls are around, or when their friends are around, you know why.
Rule #4. They only understand plain English. You know that little thing we like to do call hinting or beating around the bush? Well, boys don’t understand that. If there’s something you want or need from him, you have to say it flat out in plain English. You can’t speak in riddles because they won’t understand.
This is just a little wakeup call, but it’s only to help you understand that boys have their mind someplace else right now. What you want in a relationship may be different from what they want. Try to talk about what’s important to you before you start dating someone. Make sure the both of you are on the same page.
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