What does the Bible say about disagreements and conflict resolution? Often times the root of the problem is pride and miscommunication. The Bible clearly warns us against pride and anger. As believers we must avoid provocation and personal attacks. We are called to treat everyone equally with dignity and respect. We must learn to forgive and communicate the truth in love. Communication must be clear, effective and constructive at all times. The following Bible verses provide biblical advice on how to deal with disagreements.
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness.
He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,
Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against one of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
He who answers before listening- that is his folly and his shame.
Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it leads only to evil. For evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value. The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment.
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful.
Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
1 Peter 3:8-9
Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.
But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless. 10Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him. 11You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.
A fool’s lips bring him strife, and his mouth invites a beating.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down. As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.
For as churning the milk produces butter, and as twisting the nose produces blood, so stirring up anger produces strife.”
1 Timothy 6:3-5
If anyone teaches false doctrines and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, he is conceited and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that result in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between men of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.
Do not speak to a fool, for he will scorn the wisdom of your words.
If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless.
1 Peter 2:21-24
To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. “He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth.” When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.
1 John 3:18
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.
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