Usually we like to talk about the various dates on The Bachelorette in order of them happening, but we can’t tonight because of the obvious elephant in the room, or rather the jerk on the show. I’m referring, of course, to Frank who we wish nothing but unhappiness for the rest of his life. Can you tell I’m angry? Let’s talk about him a bit.
As much as I’ve talked about Ali not being my favorite Bachelorette, I have to say that it was heartbreaking to see what happened to her on tonight’s episode. Having Frank come to her and say that he realizes he’s still in love with a girl back home, instead of her, and to say all that at THIS particular point in time, is truly an unforgivable act. All along, Frank was whining and complaining to Ali that it distressed him so much that she was dating all these other guys and that he was afraid of getting hurt. But tonight he admitted to his old girlfriend that he would go on these wonderful dates with Ali, but then lay in bed at night after they were over and instead think about her, his ex. So basically he led Ali on. Did he not for one moment think about how Ali was here hoping to find someone to spend the rest of her life with and that he was messing with that? I guess he was too busy being self-absorbed and selfish. If he had unresolved feelings for his old girlfriend, he should not have agreed to come on this show.
One of the saddest things about these heartbreaks is the way it demoralizes and breaks a woman’s confidence in herself. Ali is a young woman who is beautiful and smart and obviously has a lot to give to someone. And there she was tonight, sitting on a chair in beautiful Tahiti, with tears streaming down her face, and telling Chris Harrison that since this always happens to her, she believes something is wrong with her. On a personal note, it especially crushed me to hear Ali say that since my own daughter has said those exact same words for the exact same reasons. My daughter is also a beautiful and smart young woman, hoping to find someone to spend her life with as well. Since her divorce, the men she has come in contact with in the dating world all seem to have a myriad of problems. Not a one of them deserves her, although I have hope he’s out there and will show his face sometime. Both Ali, and my daughter, need to keep their confidence level high and move onward in spite of all the lame men coming their way.
Back in Tahiti, Ali now has two really great men left – Roberto and Chris L. Fortunately, her overnight Tahiti fantasy dates were with each of them before her disastrous talk with Frank. Shortly after their emotional talk, we saw Frank leaving on a boat with all his luggage. Unfortunately, the boat did not sink, even though I was wishing for it to do so, and we can only assume he’s back home with the little woman he said he was still in love with. My daughter had a little advice for Frank. She said he’d better put a ring on the old girlfriend’s finger since there’s not woman left out there who would ever trust his wishy washy heart ever again. But let’s get back to Ali in Tahiti and the two men left who we hope are truly there for the right reasons.
My guess is that Ali will end up choosing Roberto and Chris L. will be left standing alone. That will be difficult to watch, since Chris L. seems so genuinely in love with Ali. I looked for, but just didn’t see, much physical or sexual chemistry between her and Chris L. I noticed that their kisses were all just little smooches and not very passionate. I think Ali likes him and admires him, but I’ll bet she wasn’t rushing to get him alone in the fantasy suite. He would make a great husband and would probably be very loyal to Ali, so she couldn’t go wrong with Chris L. being her final choice. But I believe there has to be good physical chemistry between two people for it to work in the long run.
Roberto, on the other hand, has oodles of sexual chemistry with Ali. I noticed how her eyes just lit up when she looked at him, and their kisses went well beyond the “just smooches” phase. The two of them could definitely burn up a few mattresses if they got together. However, I’m a little worried that Ali could regret choosing Roberto down the road. He’s only 26 and he seems to look down a lot when he and Ali are close and talking. Is he afraid to look her in the eye? I also heard something he said tonight as he and Ali were first boarding the helicopter. He said he realizes now that these moments are what life is all about. I hate to tell him this, but that’s not true. These moments are pure fantasy and most people don’t get to experience them so they are hardly “what life is all about”. Life is mostly about working and paying your bills, and yes having some fun too. But jumping into helicopters that will take you to an island in Tahiti doesn’t happen to most of us. Roberto might be a little naive that way. In other words, when the cameras stop rolling and there are no more helicopters and limos and exotic locales, will Roberto still love Ali right after he takes the trash out when he gets home from work?
So next week is the Men Tell All show which is always fun to watch. I wonder if Casey the tattoo guy will be there and will his head have come out of the clouds yet. I wonder if bad boy Justin will be there. He seems like a saint now compared to Frank. And on this show they sometimes like to announce who the next Bachelor will be. I’m still holding out hope that it will be a guy named Reid who was vying for Jillian Harris’s heart when she was the Bachelorette. Reid was much too damaged to be looking for love right after that season ended and unfortunately we had to deal with the sickening likes of Jake Pavelka being the next Bachelor. But Reid was cute and very funny and I always thought he’d make a good Bachelor. So we’ll see. And in the meantime, Frank, if you’re listening, you’re a bonehead and we all hate you. The end.