Are you considering adopting a poor unwanted child? If the answer is yes then let me be the first to applaud you. You are doing a very honorable deed and should be treated as such. I only hope that you are doing it for the right reasons. Adoption is a very slippery slope, you must be aware that the child you adopt is probably going to have problems and mental issues for their entire life. Please also realize that adoption should NEVER be done just so that you can always state that you are such a good person because you someone some poor little child. There are way too many parents like this and celebrities aren’t helping at all.
As a child who was given away for adoption I have always gone through feeling of abandonment, hurt, and feeling like an outcast. It doesn’t help that my adoptive parents are Italian, French, and Irish while my actual blood is predominately Native American with Middle Eastern and European roots covering the other half. Thus I am over a foot taller than most of my relatives and significantly darker. Going through your childhood with other kids laughing at you for looking so different from your family is never easy. Do yourself a favor as an adoptive parent and try to adopt a child that at least looks somewhat like you and mention the adoption extremely rarely. The child doesn’t care if you did a good deed for them; in their mind you are their real parents so treat your new child as such. Other than those relatively simple guidelines, I emphasize that your new child may have mental problems (I go through bad anxiety and have High Functioning Autism) and you must display patience with them. In return your child will love you and be the child you always wanted. I repeat that raising any child isn’t easy but raising one that isn’t biologically yours can be even harder but equally rewarding. Again I emphasize that you are doing a very noble thing.
On the contrary if you are a mother (and possibly father) considering giving up your child then please weigh your options carefully. As if you are very young, please remember that one day you will be in your 30’s and miss the child you gave away very much. My birthmother truly showed great regret in her decision and is even more regretful probably because she hasn’t had another child since. Realize that you may never have a child again and this could be your only chance; are you willing to give that up? Adoption isn’t always the best option and it will make your child feel completely unwanted and said child will grow up to either hate you or be very sad whenever you are mentioned. Is that something you can cope with? If the benefits of adoption outweigh the disadvantages then by all means do it but please think carefully about everyone around you as well as yourself. Never shortchange your own child as it is the worst thing you as a person can do sadly.
So please remember what was said here and think before you choose adoption.