I have recently watched Alicia Keys’ new video “Unthinkable”, and was impressed at the message at hand. In the video, she is in a relationship with a white guy (Chad Michael Murray), and it showcases the social stigma with interracial dating throughout the decades. While interracial dating has started much drama in the past, one must ask, is interracial dating that big of a deal anymore?
In the video it sure seemed to be. Alicia’s character is torn away from her lover by her brother, who does not believe Murray is good enough for his sister, due to his skin color. But how realistic is this video? Would black men really start openly beating up white guys in the streets because they are dating ‘their women’? I don’t believe so. The black culture is usually very accepting of other races. Will people probably speak negatively about an interracial couple if they do not agree with it? I feel like that is a bit more likely.
But it is definitely becoming more accepted. Just look at our popular culture. There are several movies about interracial dating. Some of which include “Something New”, “Lakeview Terrace”, “Away We Go”, and “Guess Who” just to name a few. We are even seeing many celebrities involved in interracial relationships. There is actress Alfre Woodard and her husband, writer Roderick Spencer, Singer Robin Thicke and his wife, Actress Paula Patton, model Naomi Campbell and her boyfriend Vladimir Doronin, Garcelle Beauvais-Nilon and her husband Mike Nilon; and the list continues on. But even with these popular examples, is it very difficult to be in an interracial relationship today?
Maybe Alicia has a valid point about interracial relationships. It definitely is not easy as compared to being in a same race relationship, but it is not as difficult as it used to be. One thing that the “Unthinkable” video was lacking was the gradual acceptance of people over time. It is okay to be in an interracial relationship and those involved in one realize that it wasn’t a big deal to begin with. We still have some way to go, but we’re definitely getting there.
In the ending of the video we have Alicia reaching for the doorknob slowly. She is deciding on whether or not to go outside to her white boyfriend, or stay inside with her disapproving family. In her individual case I would ask her, does he make you happy? Does he influence you to be your best? Is he worth all this drama? If she were to answer yes to all of those questions, than nothing else would matter.
What many do not realize is that a relationship involves two people. When you let others into your relationship, things get complicated. It is good to hear advice from your friends a family yes, but they do not have your perspective. They are not with the person you are with, they do not know all of the things that you do about your relationship, and if you choose to be with that person, they must be enough. Interracial relationships are no different. A relationship is hard work, regardless of what color you are, and if you are willing to do the work, then you are ready for that relationship. J