If you’re a teen boy who likes an older teen girl, my advice is to go for it! A teen boy should never assume that the older teen girl, whom he is attracted to, would never give him the time of day! There is absolutely nothing morally wrong with a teen couple in which the girl is the older of the two.
Nowhere in the Bible, if you’d like to get religious about this, does it suggest that teen dating must always consist of an older boy and younger girl. If you’re not religious, then nowhere in the “School of Morals” does it dictate that it’s reprehensible for a teen boy to date an older teen girl.
Approach that sweet older girl you’ve been thinking about; do not waste time. She may very well eagerly accept your approach, because perhaps older guys have been hitting on her and pressuring her for sex, or showing off their materialism and money — a turnoff to a young lady who’s down to earth, sincere and knows how to appreciate what’s truly important in life.
Never assume that an older girl is “out of your league.” First of all, who’s the god who dictates just what the “league” is in the first place? Quite frankly, this concept of “She’s out of your league” is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard of.
Here’s a question: Why is it acceptable for a girl, 15, to date a boy, 17, but completely unacceptable for a boy, age 15, to date a girl who’s 17? In general, there is a big difference between age 15 and age 17, so to assume that a boy of 17 is at the same emotional maturity level as a girl of 15 is a form of reverse chauvinism, akin to stating that women aren’t as good at driving as are men.
You can’t put everyone into a box or assign them to some cookie cutter template based on age. Many variables come together to mold a young person’s maturity level, including family environment and stability between the parents.
When a girl of 15 gets involved with an older teen boy, her friends are like, “Wow! Cool!” and they are happy for her.
When a boy of 15 gets involved with an older teen girl — the reaction from his buddies is entirely different, often consisting of a lot of ribbing and even insults — unless she’s some dazzling cheerleader.
The worst reason for a teen boy to keep his crush on an older teen girl a secret and never pursue her, is fear of what his friends will think.
Never mind what your friends might think! You won’t give a sh- what they think five years from now anyways! Maybe not even one year from now! You aren’t on this earth to please your friends! Your feelings, your hopes and desires, and your dreams rank ahead of those of your judgmental friends!
What about your parents? I suggest you invite that nice older girl to your home to meet your parents. If your parents have some negative preconceived ideas about her, the only way to quash those is for your parents to meet and get to know her.
Ultimately, judge everyone on an individual basis, a case-by-case basis. A teen boy should never feel intimidated at the idea of introducing himself to an older teen girl. She either has the values and morals that you prize, or she doesn’t. Age just happens to be incidental!