People from all over the world, from centuries ago to present day, have consistently tried to control the life-stream. There have been homemade contraceptives, pharmaceutical contraceptives, the always risky “pull out” method, even surgical intervention. We don’t want to have more children than we can take care of. All are perfectly acceptable forms of birth control. The thing is, as you would expect from humans, we make mistakes.
Abortion is a touchy subject with just about anyone, but the fact is, it happens. I was raised a Southern Baptist, but I’m extremely interested in all religions and I don’t believe any God would condemn a person for staying true to their heart and worshiping the God(s) they were brought up to believe in. I’ve come to realize that just about everyone has similar basic moral values. I will always remember this prayer,
God, grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
I was taught at an early age that God gave us all free will, and will forgive us of our sins if we should pray and ask for it. You can’t (and shouldn’t try to) change or control anyone; God himself doesn’t even want to do that. Each person is responsible for their choices in life, no one else. I am always confused and saddened when I see or hear Christians (or any other religion) judging and condemning women who have had an abortion. They are ultimately turning their backs on a hurting woman. We will all have our own judgment day, right? Forgiveness is the way, right? A woman that can’t afford to have children is condemned if she has an abortion, and at the same time, condemned if she has the baby and needs help caring for it. I hear people say terrible things about single mothers on welfare, and it’s impossible to raise a family in this country on one low income without assistance. I think that is pretty well known. If we could solve these problems (like jobs with a true living wage, better education, and health care), and if everyone would just help each other emotionally, maybe abortions will decrease on their own. I personally feel blessed and proud that a part of my paycheck helps feed and educate the less fortunate children of my country. The problem is, most of these people want to be able to support themselves, and I would much rather be helping on a much more personal level. No one wants to have to depend on anyone else to do that. If abortion is that big of a problem and concern in America, then we need to look into improving our quality of life. You never know what a person is going through, and if you are are a Christian, you should be able to console yourself with the belief that those children are with God and had to suffer no pain. With that said, I think everyone over 16 now knows what has to happen to get pregnant. We need to be responsible, and use protection if we do not want to have children. If you suspect you could have gotten pregnant, go and get Plan B the next day; it helps prevent an egg from attaching, and is just another form of birth control. If all of these steps are taken, many women won’t even have to think about an abortion.
With technology, we have the privilege of watching our babies grow and hearing their little heartbeats from as early as 5-6 weeks gestation. That makes abortion that much tougher for us to deal with or even conceive. We see the amazing changes that take place and bond with our baby months before it is even born. That’s not a luxury many countries have. An abortion may be performed somewhere in the world because they would rather terminate a pregnancy than watch their child starve to death or die from disease. They don’t consider it a living child until it emerges from the womb and takes a breath. I can understand how a young woman with no money, partner, home, or vehicle could consider abortion; especially after overhearing a conversation like some I’ve heard about single mothers on welfare and food stamps. I just hope they have someone close to them that can help them realize that sometimes a child is the drive you need to send you in the right direction, and there are always people willing to help. I wouldn’t encourage anyone to get an abortion, no matter what the circumstance, but it’s not my decision and I can’t force anyone to do what I want them to do, nor do I have the right. I say accept every challenge life throws your way. I have two beautiful children, and am happily married. I am blessed, but I refuse to condemn or judge anyone that has made a decision I don’t agree with, no matter how big or small. I will be there if they need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, or a person to pray with. Forgiveness is a powerful thing, it starts a chain. It takes a strong, loving person to be that first link.