I’m sure that many of us have been there. You start dating a very great guy, and out of nowhere, he’s gone. You are dumbfounded in what happened, not realizing that many women make very similar mistakes. Well, I’m here to help you out a little. Here are a few things that women do in a new relationship that sends a guy running.
Number one: Making yourself seem too available. I know we’ve all heard the expression “playing hard to get”, but do we all listen to it? Don’t try planning the second date one or two days after the first date. My rule of thumb is to not plan a second date until at least a week after the first. Even if you have no plans that week, it raises their interest level in you.
Number two: Don’t be easy. This is one that many women pay no mind to. Not only does it help weed out the guys that only want sex, but it tells the guys that are looking for a long-term relationship that you are not promiscuous. For a lot of women, especially younger women, sex has become more and more acceptable. I’m not saying that some women are not virgins, because I know many still are, and are waiting for marraige, which is a great thing. And I am also not saying that engaging in sex is a horrible thing. It is a personal decision between you and your partener. A good time limit to set for yourself is a minimum of two months.
Number three: Do not obsess! I know at the beginning of a relationship, it is easy to lose ourselves and become overwhelmed with emotion. It’s also known as “puppy love”. It’s when it feels like this guy could be “the one” and all you want to do is talk to him and be around him. Unfortunately, this can do one of two things. This could make the guy feel like you are too needy, or it could be “too much too soon”. If you get the urge to call him, ask youself “when was the last time I called him” and “is it going to be a meaningful or meaningless conversation?”
Number four: Saying the “L” word too early. Telling a guy that you love him after only a month or two can terrify him. And even worse, some women say it after only a few weeks. Always wait for him to say it first, as it takes a man longer to feel like he loves someone than it takes a woman. And, when he says it first, it will make you feel so much better than if you said it first. That way, you know when he says it, it’s genuine.
Number five: Confidence level. This one is a fine line. A guy wants a confident woman, but not a cocky woman. He thinks your beautiful, otherwise he wouldn’t have dated you in the first place. He doesn’t want to have to reassure every ten minutes that he thinks you are. But, he also doesn’t want to think that you think you are better than he is. A relationship is not all about you, and it is not all about him. It’s about both of you as a couple.
Remember, these are only a few helpful tips on dating. Each relationship is different, and love is complicated. It is most important to know yourself and love yourself before you begin dating.