Lets face it after a while the single life can get tiresome especially when you enter that mature phase of your life and you have met that special someone. You know that settling down is the right thing to do but something just doesn’t feel right. Deep down you’re afraid that as this chapter of your life closes so will countless opportunities and freedoms. This fear is a natural instinct that every guy will experience before settling down with a partner. There are also many things that a man should do to prepare himself for before settling down, read em and weep… but mostly read please.
Road trip with your buddies
One thing that a man loses at marriage is his friends; once babies and responsibilities arrive “Guy Night” becomes extremely limited and almost non-existent. The freedom that comes with staying up all night talking about whatever you want and cold beers at sports bars become very limited. Plan a road trip with your best friends before you all get tied down, do the things you’ll miss most and experience the freedom of the road.
Date a variety of women
Before you settle down its always important to know what is out there. Often times our brains get so wrapped up in our current romances that we tie our selves down with someone we eventually become bored of. Dating different types of women gives you a feel for the type you are best compatible with. It’s a lot like the great tale of the green eggs and ham, if you don’t try them all and in multiple places you will never know what you’re missing out on.
Work with children
Any serious relationship past this point will introduce the possibility of having children. This step is the most important to follow because according to divorce rate.org the divorce rate in America is 41%. Having children involved will make this process difficult and hard on the kids. This is why spending time with children whether it be donating your time at the big brothers big sisters program or baby sitting cousins and nephews will give you insight on what the responsibility will be like.
Travel the globe
unless our jobs permit us to the majority of those who settle down will miss out on countless opportunities to explore the globe. Before you settle down get out there and backpack across Europe while your responsibilities are low and the freedom to do so is available.
Go on a trip to las Vegas with your friends or with your partner, its better to experience all that sin city has to offer before you experience it with a time limit and screaming kids waiting back in the hotel room.
One of the most important things you must do to prepare your self for settling down is financial security. The spare money you once had to blow on big screen TV’s and sports cars will file for divorce when you have little mouths to feed and bills to pay. Secure a position with a bright future and potential you will become the provider and your wife will most likely run the checkbook.
Go to college
Getting an education is also one of the most important things to do before settling down. Not only does it allow you to make the necessary money but will provide you with endless opportunities via the knowledge you gain. Keep in mind its never to late to learn and many universities offer degrees and courses online, Earn My Degree.com provides a list of schools that do so.
Learn to cook
So we were able to survive off Chinese food and hot pockets for our entire life up until now… but that just won’t cut it when it comes to settling down. Take some cooking classes or at the very least know how to barbeque. We live in the 21st century women shouldn’t have to do all the cooking.
Fall in love
Before you settle for your final women it’s important to have experienced previous love. It is a part of maturing and you can learn greatly from sharing bonds with other people. It will also make your final commitment that much stronger and reassuring.
Get your heart broken
Everyone gets their heart broken and it is essential to future relationships to do so. Understanding the pain and learning to cope with it will make you a stronger person and give you an independent drive that has the ability to lead you to a successful career and appropriate partner.
Live life on the edge
Not all of us are daredevils but gaining an experience such as skydiving or bungee jumping are a few examples of activities to consider before settling down. Not that you can’t take part in them after, but more so due to the high risk they involve and the responsibilities you will soon gain involved with those risks.
Achieve your dreams
While it may be true that we can’t all be rock stars and astronauts we can at least try. Pursuing a dream will be the most fulfilling experience of any persons life and never doing so will haunt you for the rest of your life especially if you never even made an attempt. By pursing your dreams and achieving them you will guarantee your self a much happier settled down existence.
Pick up a unique hobby
Raising a family can be stressful and leave you with little down time. Getting out there and finding a hobby you enjoy will be your best friend when you need time to recuperate. Take surfing lessons or learn stand up comedy, everyone has something.
Find happiness with in yourself
Before you chose a life mate you must find happiness with in your self. If you are not happy with you as an individual then your relationship will also never be happy. The power that comes from the individual will guide you through rough patches in relationships and seal a tight bond between you and your partner.
Get into excellent physical condition
Hit the gym and get into shape before you’re tied down. Even if you cannot manage to keep your physique at least you’ll have the pictures and wife to prove it.
Donate bone marrow
Donating bone marrow while you are young and healthy is a selfless act that can save lives. If you get matched the process of donating is a lot easier of you are not tied down. Giving the gift of life to a small child or someone in need will be an experience unlike anything. The process of registering is very simple and you can start by visiting the Be the Match website at www.marrow.org.