Beware of what you CC, BCC, REPLY ALL and FORWARD tab. Think long and hard before hitting the SEND key. What you send, in this technology age, cannot be undone. This includes forwarding chain letters, jokes, etc.
Just as the rule for dialing-while-drunk is in effect after break-ups and dust-ups, do not surf the Net drunk or under the influence of drugs or your emotions. Anything you post on Facebook or SMS (Short Message Service, a.k.a. “texting”) leaves a trail of breadcrumbs that will always lead right back to you and if what you posted is untrue, half of the truth, manipulative or ambiguous in any way, you will eventually come to regret what you have posted. It’s embarrassing when you clown yourself or others, period. But when you clown yourself for millions of others to see, that’s just sad. What you may think is funny, momentarily hurtful or may put you in a glorious light at the moment you hit that post button, may end of being the bane of your existence the next day, and the day after.
Dumping your significant other via the Internet (facebook, digg, reddit, etc) is just childish and cruel. If you aren’t able (or don’t want to) to sever the ties that bind in person, do it via private email. Putting on a silver screen production for your facebook (and theirs) friends and family only shows how nasty and foul one can really be. Again, clowning yourself is a class “A” felony punishable by a lifetime of embarrassment and bad karma.
Facebook isn’t a popularity contest. I’ve seen people with 997 “friends” and wonder how many of those people that individual actually knows. Also, I’ve found that people with a consummate number of “friends” are usually the ones who have a lot of complaints about Spam, facebook stalkers, etc. They never really know who the culprit is for it could be any one of the 997 “friends.” All that number tells me is that you collect people and have no care for whom you’re sharing your personal day-to-day doings, photos and info with. I am not speaking of people who use facebook as a business tool and only post business related info.
Posting or update overload. I know too many people guilty of this. I’m not talking about words of wisdom or sharing a good link, story or photo or a funny anecdote about your day, life. I’m talking about those people that are telling use when, where and how often they use the bathroom, sleep with their spouses; where they’re doing and in what positions; what they cooked and how they digested it; how messed up their co-workers and kids are; how much they make and what they spend it on. Too much of anything is never good. Too much information is just overkill and makes some of us wonder what you’re attempting to over compensate for. Post sparingly and use tact and emotional intelligence. To be suspected of being a dimwit is one thing, to post and remove all doubt is another.
In my humble opinion, Facebook has become less of a networking tool and more a tool of which we use to put our lives on blast – and not always for good and (as I’ve learned) not always the truth, but more what we would like others to think of or about ourselves. You have couples fighting via facebook posts; people “calling out” others through “subtle,” guileful updates and others using the site as weapon to lay misery upon the doorstep of people they don’t like, know or understand all under the guise of “sharing their feelings” with “friends” and family. I dare say, NOT.
Select friends your friends with caution. If you don’t recognize someone or don’t know them at all, you don’t have to be nasty, just ignore the request or politely ask them how they know you then decide from there if you want to add them. My suggestion is to create separate facebook pages: one for family, one for friends and another business associates. What is being placed on your family sight is for the eyes of family members only and everyone is free to talk. One should never mix personal, family and social contacts. Remember, friends and bosses will see what you post. Not good. I knew a former co-worker who was terminated for something she wrote on facebook about a supervisor.
Unlike face-to-face interaction, when sending an email, SMS, text or facebook posting, people are not privy to seeing or hearing the way you intend for something to come off. Use caution in what you write, how you write it (the words you use) and whom you write it too. Using social networking sites to dance on someone’s grave, kick someone when they’re down, embarrass or rally up false support is sure fire way to find yourself sued, beat down or alienated later when the truth comes out (and it always does). Talk about passive-aggressive!
If you don’t want others viewing who is on your friend and family lists, block anyone from seeing it. This way people who come across your profile will not be able to view who your friends are or aren’t until you add them as a friend. Do the same for your photos unless you don’t mind strangers or non-friends surfing your photo album.
As usual, people have taken the fun out of a site that was created to draw people closer together not wreck havoc. Do you part and refuse to toss gasoline onto a burning fire. Do not join in on or comment on the villainous jabberings of fellow facebookers for you know little of their true motive and even less of the truth. Besides, imagine what they’ll post about you when they begin fixating their lunacy upon your wall. Using technology to create, promote or partake in guerrilla warfare only brands you as a passive-aggressive coward.