Wondering if you’re dating Ms. Wrong? Not quite sure if your girlfriend is the one for you? Are you searching for relationship warning signs? Just curious if your girlfriend isn’t a good catch?
If so, you’re not alone. Some common searches on Yahoo are “is my girlfriend right for me”, “warning signs of a bad girlfriend”, “signs of a bad relationship”, and “relationship red flags.”
Here are a few warning signs that your girlfriend isn’t right for you.
She is constantly complaining.
Is your girlfriend constantly criticizing other people? Does she complain about her family, roommate, or random people at the grocery store? If so, that is a big red flag.
Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a grouchy lady? It will only get worse as she gets older. Chances are, if she is complaining to other people about you frequently, more than likely she complains about you to others.
Now, there are some situations, say a bullying coworker, where it is understandable. But if she is constantly complaining about other people and life in general, she probably isn’t for you. This is especially true if she complains about your family and friends.
She has lied to you.
Lying is a big red flag. It is not healthy for anyone to lie in a relationship. I’m not saying you should definitely call it quits if she has lied to you, but you should take this very seriously. This is especially true if she has lied about her background, age, or health situation.
She doesn’t share your religious beliefs.
One of the biggest relationship mistakes is to date someone who does not share your religious beliefs. While it may seem to work, this can cause serious problems in a marriage. It is best to find a girl who shares your religious beliefs. In a relationship where the religious beliefs are not shared, someone usually will have to give in and leave their religious background.
She is trying to change you.
Okay, this one is flexible. If she’s trying to get you to quit smoking or stop drinking, that is understandable. But if she is trying to change you in other ways, and is nagging you, you might need to think twice about the relationship. If she’s not happy with you now, imagine how she might being thirty years or so when you’re going bald.
She doesn’t get along well with others.
Does she not have many friends? Is the constantly fighting with her roommate, family and other people? If she doesn’t get along well with others, it might be a sign the relationship won’t last long.
She criticizes you in front of other people.
Does your girlfriend criticize you in front of others over things like the way you hold your fork and are dressed? Does she point out your flaws to friends and family? If so, this is a big red flag she is not the one for you.
She’s very, very insecure.
Does she incessantly put herself down? Is she very insecure with the way she looks? This is not the best sign in a good girlfriend. While it is possible she can change, it is toxic to be dating someone who is very insecure.
She uses illegal drugs.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Do you really want someone who uses drugs to be the mother of your children? Will she be a positive influence on you? Think about it.
She doesn’t seem very interested in you.
If she doesn’t seem to be very interested in you, it might be time to talk to her about it. She’s either very shy, or she’s just not the one for you.
She doesn’t seem to like your children.
If you have kids, and she complains about, or doesn’t seem interested in your children, she is definitely not the one for you. And, if your kids have expressed that they don’t like her, she is just not a good catch. It is very unhealthy to marry someone who won’t be a mentor and positive role model to your children. You need to put your kids first. If you really feel she is the one for you, then wait until your kids are grown.
These are just ten red flags that your girlfriend is not a good catch. These signs don’t necessarily mean it’s time to end the relationship. Counseling might be beneficial. Best wishes!